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Keeps saying mean things that make me sad :(

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ConstantHeadache Wed 09-Jul-08 13:53:44

I have been with my partner for about 4 or 5 months. we do not live together but I am being really put off by him lately. He says things that make me really sad.

Like going on about animals being hurt, he says stuff like "what would you do if I put terrance (my beautiful pet snake) in a bag and threw it in the rubbish truck and told you about it just as it was being crushed up. I say "would do you say stuff like that when you know it upsets me?" and he says "I'm just playing" and makes out like its a big joke.

He asked me to imagine what it would be like if the dolphins at seaworld came up to us all excited and he plunged one of them in the eye. I actually felt like crying but he thinks its really funny.

And putting a cat in a microwave and he showed me a story were a hedgehog was set on fire by some dickheads and the news report said it was found screaming in pain. Why would he show me that.

I have NO other concerns about him but why does he say these things? as far as I know hes never hurt an animal and when I ask him if he would he says "no, dont be daft, im just winding you up".

NotDoingTheHousework Wed 09-Jul-08 13:55:29

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bruxeur Wed 09-Jul-08 13:55:55

Please tell me you have another snake called Philip.

It sounds like you're easy to wind up, and some people find that funny. If it really bothers you, you need to tell him at a time when he's not doing it, and make it clear that you really don't like it and want him to stop.

CurrantBM Wed 09-Jul-08 14:27:34

Sound really obnoxious, would not give him the time of day TBH.

tiredemma Wed 09-Jul-08 14:30:33

Is he a psychopath?

Research has shown that people who hurt animals have the potential to kill humans.

or he is just a twat.

hanaflowerisnothana Wed 09-Jul-08 14:31:00

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dittany Wed 09-Jul-08 14:31:16

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Dropdeadfred Wed 09-Jul-08 14:32:54 like the wind! shock

sandy4 Wed 09-Jul-08 14:36:22

You can judge a person by how they treat animals. Why would he want to wind you up in this way ???

youcannotbeserious Wed 09-Jul-08 14:36:48

Sounds totally weird.

I'd be really freaked if someone said things like that about my dog.

Agree that people who can hurt animals have the potential to do damage to humans.

It's not normal to say stuff like that.

bruxeur Wed 09-Jul-08 14:40:04

Loving the overreactions here - he's a psychopath! No, a murderer! Wait, no, he hurts animals!!

He enjoys winding up his girlfriend, and she has a big red button - if the button was clowns, and he kept showing her pictures of them, it wouldn't make him Pennywise.

Twat, yes, dolphin murdering psychopath - probably not.

littlewoman Wed 09-Jul-08 14:47:02

"He enjoys winding up his girlfriend" - yes. Why would you want to be with someone who (at the very least) enjoys pissing you off? Whether or not he hurts animals, he definitely enjoys hurting you, eh? That's enough to get rid, I'd say.

mrsruffallo Wed 09-Jul-08 14:51:10

I think this is a wind up.

tiredemma Wed 09-Jul-08 15:00:39

bruxeur,search my posts.

I tend to be sarcastic.
That was the intention here.

ginnny Wed 09-Jul-08 15:01:12


MrsMacaroon Wed 09-Jul-08 15:11:48

i'm stuck on dolphins at Sea World coming up to you all excited...

cocolepew Wed 09-Jul-08 15:14:41

Ask him to stop, if he doesn't, dump him.

Kewcumber Wed 09-Jul-08 15:16:53

NotDoing the houseowrk is right he is 12. Ditch him, unless you are 12 too. In which case, ditch him and go and do your homework young lady.

OomphreyCushion Wed 09-Jul-08 15:18:47

That's 4 or 5 months you won't get back.
Ditch this idiot.
Move on.

TheDevilWearsPrimark Wed 09-Jul-08 15:22:42

Gosh yes.

It reminds me of 7 year olds who pull of spiders legs for fun.

Get out before you get in too deep.

Desiderata Wed 09-Jul-08 15:25:07

I think this poster's a bit of a regular, ladies.

No harm done, but hmm all the same.

ConstantHeadache Wed 09-Jul-08 15:46:58

"It reminds me of 7 year olds who pull of spiders legs for fun."

shock who on earth would do that?

Anyway I'm not winding people up, like I said he's never actually hurt an animal and he is fine in all other ways. But this just really upsets me.

ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight Wed 09-Jul-08 15:49:37

He has a nasty sense of humour and I wouldn't put up with that. He thinks that's funny - he's a prick.

ChickenBurger Wed 09-Jul-08 15:53:11

Why would anyone find it enjoyable to chat about gouging an animal's eyes out?

I bet he's not fine in other ways - come on, what else does he do?

prettyfly1 Wed 09-Jul-08 19:08:20

ummm - i dont normally do this but is this a troll - a double troll? bruxeur? sorry but it all just seems like a bit of a wind up. hedgehogs? in the microwave? excited dolphins? eh?

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