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dh left me early this morning

(306 Posts)
lou33 Mon 31-Jan-05 10:34:24

that's it really

took his credit card, and went. Wouldn't tell me if he was coming back, refused to take his mobile, told me to tell the kids what i wanted.

mystery Mon 31-Jan-05 10:36:32

lou I'm really sorry to hear this - I have just posted something about my dp wanting to leave and I can totally relate to how you are feeling. Why has he left?

nailpolish Mon 31-Jan-05 10:37:23

lou are you ok?

Twiglett Mon 31-Jan-05 10:37:26

OMG .. Lou .. are you OK? do you have people with you?

lockets Mon 31-Jan-05 10:37:49

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Kayleigh Mon 31-Jan-05 10:38:33

Oh Lou. So sorry to hear this. Do you have some support there ? Was this out of the blue ?

coppertop Mon 31-Jan-05 10:39:05

Lou I don't know what to say.

MancMum Mon 31-Jan-05 10:39:18

no! was this planned or expected? How are you feeling? Don't you have 4 kids? Talk to us more - are you ok? Don't know any of the background to this but could not leave this without adding a hug and some support

Blu Mon 31-Jan-05 10:40:12

Oh Lou, this can't be right. Don't panic - what do you thnk is happening?


charleypops Mon 31-Jan-05 10:40:41


unicorn Mon 31-Jan-05 10:42:00

don't know what to say Lou, but sending lots of support.

Hope this will get sorted.


weightwatchingwaterwitch Mon 31-Jan-05 10:44:03

Whaaaaat? Oh I'm so sorry Lou. Please tell us if there's anything we can do. You know we will.

Mothernature Mon 31-Jan-05 10:44:19

jampots Mon 31-Jan-05 10:45:14

Lou - has something triggered this. I agree with Lockets - men deal with grief and things completely differently to women - hope its sorted today for you. Have you tried him at work?

vict17 Mon 31-Jan-05 10:47:02

oh Lou I'm really sorry to hear this especially after talking with you on here last night

weightwatchingwaterwitch Mon 31-Jan-05 10:49:41

Lou, have you got someone with you? Do you need someone there?

Moomina Mon 31-Jan-05 10:51:06

Oh, lou. Do you think it is to do with thailand? (Sorry if I've got that completely wrong.) Are there friends he might have gone to stay with?

lou33 Mon 31-Jan-05 10:51:54

thanks. We had a row a couple of days ago (see my contribution to my husband is a t**t thread), which had been simmering, but imo not enough to end up like this. He went awol yesterday, but i thought he would do what he normally does when we argue, turn up in the early hours, sleep it off then we woudl talk and sort it out. This time he was adamant he wasnt staying, didn't want to know. He said it is obvious i dont love him and have wanted to leave him for a long time, he wasn't going to listen, he didn't care anymore, he wouldn't take his phone and he wouldnt tell me where he was going.

Yes i have 4 kids, and i don't drive. Noone really nearby to help out, apart from a single mum who has 3 kids and 3 jobs of her own to worry about. Spacedonkey is off to italy tomorrow.

School to walk is an hour round trip at least. Two hospital appointments for ds2 this week as well.

lou33 Mon 31-Jan-05 10:52:59

he works from home!

it isn't thailand, it may be a lot of other things but it isn't that.

misdee Mon 31-Jan-05 10:53:33

so sorry lou.dont know what to say/do but {{{{hugs}}}}

lou33 Mon 31-Jan-05 10:54:30

and he took a duvet so i think he is planning on sleeping in the car. He never talks to nayone about his problems, apart from me so i would be very surprised if he went to see a friend. Plus his best mate is spacedonkey's boyfriend, so he wouldn't go there.

Moomina Mon 31-Jan-05 10:57:21

Sorry, have just read your stuff on the other thread. Xh used to do this as well. I don't really know what to suggest...

jampots Mon 31-Jan-05 11:02:58

lou - did you manage to get the kids to school. Also have you tried ringing a few hotels. Even though you cant drive i also think you need to review your insurance situation and ask him to cover the car for any drivers and next time he leaves can he please walk as if your car is there then at least someone else can drive you and children to school/appts etc. am feeling very angry that he has left you high and dry

lou33 Mon 31-Jan-05 11:05:40

no i kept the kids off today. i didn't think they would be settled in school, maybe tomorrow.

the car thing is tricky, as we don't actually own it,it's my bil's, and dh is a driver on his insurance. We tax and mot it and take care of repairs etc, so there isn't really anything i can do about that. Am trying not to tell my family anything yet, about this

lou33 Mon 31-Jan-05 11:06:11

have no cash in the house either

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