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DH is a miserable, moody T#*T!

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Bexter · 30/01/2005 20:15

Am V with DH! OK, so he's got a cold and is 'a bit tired' (BIG WOW - I'm a LOT tired almost every day!). The thing is, when he gets miserable and moody (he acts like Kevin from the Harry Enfield sketches!), he's a real pain in the arse to deal with and ends up taking it out on DD! For instance, tonight I ended up here, in the office, boo-ing my eyes out cos he was 'tired' and therefore in a bad mood and instead of being nice and patient with DD, he ended up shovelling her tea down her throat. Before she had time to swallow, he was in with the next spoon (she's only 5mth! Poor wee thing) then, whilst propped on his knee, he shoved the bottle in her mouth and watched TV, paying her no attention at all. This resulted in milk pouring out of her mouth and soaking her neck! I DARE not say anything cos any time I ask him to do something different or pick him up for the way he's doing something with DD, he goes into a massive sulk about how I am allways, apparently, criticising him and that 'he can't do anything right'. This is not the case - of course, if I think that he's doing something not quite right, I try to tell him in a calm, diplomatic way, so that it can't be misconstrued. I'm at a loss now as, wanting to do the very best for DD results in heartache between me and DH! It's almost like I have to choose and, quite frankly, I shouldn't have to!!

Another example is, unfortunately for him, I am a whizz at getting DD to sleep almost immediately. Tonight she was a bit grumpy (teething and a bit of a cold) and was screaming her head off at bedtime (V V unusual for DD). DH, instead of asking me to take over to get her to sleep, he stubbornly persisted in trying to do it himself which only resulted in DD being unhappy for longer than necessary! It's like he would rather let her cry than ask for my help!

Gosh - I've waffled on a bit!!! Grateful for any comments either way!

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jessicasmummy · 30/01/2005 20:19

i had the same from DH about a month ago - dd was also then about 5 months! Suddenly i got really ill, dh had to do EVERYTHING for me and dd and now she tends to prefer him to me!!! Go with the flow sweetie and take the time talk when you are both refreshed - possibly of a morning. say you are not criticising but in your experience with her she prefers such and such..... may be worth a try. hth.

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pleaserewind · 30/01/2005 20:19

sorry, nothing constructive for you but juat wanted to say that i know how you feel. Had a massive row with dh which all stemmed from the fact that i said ds2 had to wear helmet on his bike and dh said he didn't need to. ds2 was stood there saying, yeah yeah see, i don't need it on grrrrrrrrr

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albosmum · 30/01/2005 20:22

not talking to my DH either - he is a * - I think most dhs or men in general have their moments

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Insomnia · 30/01/2005 20:51

Yeah, life is just great, isn't it? Had a row with DH earlier, (something that happens evertime we see each other). DS asked for cookie just before lunch. Mommy said 'No', so Daddy said 'Is your Mommy being a bitch again?, I don't think she likes you very much'. Yes... he then had his cookie...

I have explained over and over again that this actually hurts DS more than it hurts me, but DH is braindead or something. Sigh.

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hercules · 30/01/2005 20:54

That's awful imsommnia and abuse

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Bexter · 30/01/2005 20:57

OMG Insomnia! That behaviour is SERIOUSLY out of order! Christ, and we havn't even got to the stage where we're fighting in front of a child who can understand! Madness! Why do we do it at all?

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hercules · 30/01/2005 20:58

Are you getting some sort of help, insommnia?

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brinkley · 30/01/2005 21:06

i've decided that d/h stands for dick-head

my dickhead snores at about a million decibels every night and tells me to f* o if i give him a gentle nudge to try and turn him over - charming, huh?

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Insomnia · 30/01/2005 21:20

Hahaha, I thought it stood for dickhead all along! No help no. But I might add (in small print) that I'm not totaly innocent. I wish I was as nice as some of you, but, if my BH does something, or says something that upsets me, I'm in attack mode immediately. We secretly do love each other, that's probably one of the reasons we're still together, and the kids turned out very nice people (considering). But this is a very destructive relationship. Glad I got your mind of things Bexter. If I'm feeling low, I always look out for people that's feeling even 'lower', to make me feel better. Hope it worked for you as well!!

Anyone worse off than me then?

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brinkley · 30/01/2005 21:28

Insomnia - believe me, there is ALWAYS someone worse off than you

you and your dhead love each other - albeit secretly. i've known couples who loathe each other - publicly

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Insomnia · 30/01/2005 21:40

Yeah, but none of them on Mumsnet? I'm truly dissapointed...

At least I lost 0.4 pounds today. Yeeeha. Another 40 years and I'll look like Ally McBeal!

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lou33 · 30/01/2005 21:44

mine qualifies for this section tonight.

after a tense couple of days from a previous argument, he told me to fuck of to thailand and not come back, stormed out of the house and i havent seen or heard from him since.

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galaxy · 30/01/2005 21:46

Lou

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lou33 · 30/01/2005 21:47

if he isnt careful i will take his advice

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vict17 · 30/01/2005 21:47

oh no Lou - when did he leave?

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lou33 · 30/01/2005 21:48

about 3

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brinkley · 30/01/2005 21:48

ouch

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brinkley · 30/01/2005 21:49

prize dickhead

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Insomnia · 30/01/2005 21:50

Maybe he's gone to Thailand Lou.

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lou33 · 30/01/2005 21:51

can't argue there atm. If he doesnt come back tonight i wont be able to get kids to school as ds2's wheelchair is in the car , which he has.

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lou33 · 30/01/2005 21:51

insomnia

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vict17 · 30/01/2005 21:52

Has he got a mobile you can call him on or is it a case of who will ring first?!!

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lou33 · 30/01/2005 21:53

he left it here as usual

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