Can anyone advise me what they think is reasonable access for dh to see dd's? He left 8 weeks ago and currently sees them twice a week, one evening and one morning on a weekend. Each time is at home and supervised, with the odd occasion where I've popped out. They are nearly 3 and one 8 months.
He keeps going on about having them for the weekend and it's getting me down! I still breastfeed the youngest and will continue for as long as I want to - he doesn't really have the same bond with the youngest either and I don't think it's fair to split them up???
He has finally ground me down and I am leaving the house and moving 4 hrs away closer to family. He expects to pick them up frid eve/sat morn and return them sun pm?? Is this reasonable? I made the journey the other week and found it really hard going with them - both very fed up with such a long journey and I had to stop several times making the journey even longer! He will take them to his mothers (whom they don't know very well and, no doubt, let her do most of the caring as he was never hands on!)
Surely with him recently leaving, a house move and then uprooting them however many weekends he decides he wants them will cause a lot of trauma for my toddler? She is extremely upset by his comings and goings and has been very emotional and clingy since a recent incident between me and dh (and dd's witnessed!), whereby I called the police out!
I just don't know what to do - I really don't think he deserves to see them at all, but I know that he has rights and it's supposedly best dd's have a relationship with him etc. etc.!
How long can I keep the access to a minimum? Surely it would be best to wait till they are older to take them so far away for a whole weekend?
I'm getting really depressed thinking about it - please help.
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talie · 29/01/2005 22:47
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