Its such a long story. I was going to name-change. But then thought, why? Why not be me in this thread? So here I am, being me, an upset me.
I am exhausted. Last night I slept from 11pm until 2:30am. I cooked dinner, put DD to bed, cleared ip after dinner, watered pants, had bath, got out of bath to settle DD, got back into bath, moisterised, read book, went to sleep. DH watched footie with a friend.
Woken by DHs snoring, Or maybe something else. I really dont know. Could not go back to sleep, as his snoring is so so bad right now, he struggles to breath, sometimes he stops (apnea) but not always, even when he is not stopped, it is laboured.
I have tried talking about the apnea, he brishes it off, refuses to deal with it, says its nothing.
For the last few weeks I had slept pretty much as last night. I work hard in the day, have little time to myself, if any, so I go to bed early. I cant always sleep then, cant sleep in the day.
Dh and I are spending less and less time together, I am in bed, he is on computer as I am in bed, s he comes to bed late.
Our sex life is non-existent, we argue about the smallest things, he is grumpy, I am grumpy He is cruel, I am probably cruel.
Today we talked about it. I shouldered some of the responsibility, as I am tired I know I can be a cow. he also blamed me. Asked me what I was going to do about it.
He says there has been no affection, no intimacy, and he feels there is a huge gap in our relationship. Her wont recognise his snoring as so significant, ay he will get a pillow.
We are meant to be going out for his birthday celebration tonight, have a babysitter and its the first time we have been our for a long time together without DD. IHe says I have ruined it.
Can it be the snoring? Can it be something underlying that we are not recognising? We got no-where this morning, DD had to get up, and I feel more distant from him, less like he is listening to me than I have ever felt.
And I cant stop crying.
I might not be back on for a while as has gone to shops and will be back soon.
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Can snoring really break a marriage? Feels like it can right now [sad]
pavlovthecat · 14/06/2008 10:20
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