H dropped dds and I off at a party at 1.00pm, which lasted for 2 hours. He cleared off, I stayed with the girls. He came to collect us at 3.00pm, and I asked if he would let me drive with him in the car as I haven't driven for a while and felt I'd lost my confidence.
Well, I got bollocksed for driving in 3rd gear in a 30mph speed zone. I pointed out that that's what I'd always done and that I didn't want his opinion on my methods of driving, just for him to sit with me in case I got nervous. He called me ridiculous.
Got back, made a sandwich, turns out he'd been 'cleaning his shoes' for the last two hours.
Logged on to MN to see what was happening - was on here all of 5 mins, at which point dd came in and said 'We're going to the Con club'. 'No you're not, I said, you've got school tomorrow and we've still got to comb through your hair.' ' Come on girls, let's go - leave your mother to that bloody MN'.
So out they all went into the drive. I asked him to take the Nissan (which I certainly could never drive) instead of the Mondeo. He refused.
I was so desperate I stood in the middle of the exit of our drive - and he slowly reversed into me, pushing me out of the way with the rear of the car. I opened the door and shouted you bastard, you bastard - what must my girls think.
I can't go on but don't know what to do. Please help me. Surely he can't just unilateraly decide to take my girls off simply because I spent 5 mins on MN. And in such a cruel way. They saw what he did. At the moment I just feel like taking off right now but I know that wouldn't be the right thing to do either
Colditzmum it's much, much more than that. He feels he has the right to do whatever he wants to with our children, regardless of my feelings. It could be the conservative club tonight, France tomorrow. And surely reversing in to me is assault?
The reversing into you part is particularly alarming and definitely bullying IMO. Blokes always seem to think they can give advice re driving but it only serves to make women more nervous. I sh*t my pants in the car when DH is driving - one hand on wheel, too fast in built up area, no use of indicators but the lectures I get when I'm at the wheel ......... it's totally wanky.
Treat yourself to some extra driving lessons or even go for your advanced motorist. At least read a book called the driving manual then you'll be able to point out all his faults (I bet he has loads) when he's driving and be nice and smug about it!