Generally dh and I have a good relationship, we get on really well and have a laugh etc, but, when he is due to start work its like another person has taken over.
He works weird shifts and has a few days off at a time and then back for 4 days. The day before his first day shift, we daren't speak to him as he is grumpy, moody and flies of the handle with the kids at the slightest thing, sometimes he is only in from work 10 minutes and he shouts at the kids.
When it;s the day of his first night shift, my god, the old dh isn't there anymore, he went to bed this afternoon for a nap as he usually does before his first night shift (never sleeps just sits watching tele and reading papers), he has just come down and as all kids do they follow their mummy and daddy about, my two do because their daddy works such long hours. Anyway youngest followed him into the kitchen and he screamed 'LEAVE ME ALONE' scared the poor little mite to death, she then jumped in my arms sobbing.
5 minutes before, dd1 & dd2 were playing, dd1 was being mean to dd2 and instead of getting off his arse and sorting it, he knelt down in front of her screamed 'LEAVE YOUR SISTER A F***g LONE', for gods sake she is only 5, he scared her witless too.
He won't sit in the kitchen and eat his tea at the breakfast bar as he wants to watch the tele, he's just a different person when he is at work.
I am either going to say something I'll regret later or tell him from now on until he changes his ways to stay at his mothers when he is on nights. She lives nearer to his work than i do.
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I'm going to blow at him in a minute and may say something I regret
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BubblesDeVere · 08/01/2005 16:49
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