I'm wondering if this is a universal problem or whether it only happens to some people and not others. I?m a SAHM & part-time student with a 4 ½ yr old ds. Generally I?m not a very forward person when it comes to asking people round or to meet up for coffee/play-dates, that kind of thing, so most of the socialising I do comes from other peoples? invitations to me. By socialising, I mean with other women & mums. DH & I tend to go out with either friends we?ve known for a long time, or with his work colleagues.
I find it difficult to actually take the step of inviting someone to come over or meet up mainly because I'm a bit on the shy side and would probably take it hard if someone said NO, lol. Since having ds (4) though, I'm probably better at this now, but I still find that some people don't respond and it really puts you off trying in the future. For instance, I invited my cousin over with her children for morning tea a couple of months ago (don't see her very often), and she rang that morning & said her daughter was sick. I said that?s fine, we can organise it another day, just let me know - and I still haven't heard back from her. My mum even saw her today, and she didn?t mention anything about it. Also at the beginning of December when ds finished pre-school, I told one of the other mums to ring me if she wanted to get together with the kids over the holidays, to which she said "That would be nice" - but as yet I haven't heard a thing from her and don't really feel that I will. I realise that everyone?s main excuse these days is that they?re BUSY (which I know is quite true in a lot of cases), but it?s really deflating and hurtful when people just don?t respond. Or say they will, but then they don't. A lot of the time I?ve gotten on quite well with these people at the time, but then you never hear from them again. Does this happen to others??! I would love to be more assertive and thick-skinned but I guess I ain?t one of those people . Anyway, any thoughts on this would be appreciated ? thanks.
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Nic04 · 06/01/2005 10:42
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