I will try to keep this brief.
I was wondering if anyone has been in this situation or if anyone has any advice please.
For as long as I can remember I have always known that my dad wasn't my real father iykwim. I have always been happy with this but since having my children I have thought more and more about trying to find my birth father, and what he would be like.
When my mum fell pregnant with me they were both at college and from strict catholic backgrounds, so things were difficult for them and they split. I have never met my father.
In reading a few of the recent threads about fellow mners meeting up with relatives they have not seen in a while and feeling like they have found "someone like them" or been able "to find answers to question" has really made me think.
I think I would like to try to trace my father, but I'm not really sure where to start, or how I would deal with the feelings it would bring up, and also how this would effect my mum (although she has said in the past she would support me if I ever wanted to do anything about it).
I'm aware that my father may well have a whole life with a family who know nothing of me and he may want nothing to do with me.
But I feel as though I have to try.
I know basic details - name, dob, his parents names (although I think they are both dead now)and names of his siblings, schools and colleges attended and his parents last address. I think I could also get more information from my mum if I probed but I'm not entirely sure how much she knows.
So wise women out there any advice, or any ideas how I should begin my search.
Thank you.
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Advice on lookin for a long lost parent please.
longlost · 28/12/2004 20:42
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