Following on from my thread about my mum's recent behaviour with my son, I've started to wonder if there's more to it.
We were round there for lunch yesterday (about 10 of us) and my mum ended up getting absolutely hammered. She did the week before as well. My parents have been quite sociable for years and the booze quite often flows around there.
Thing is, recently things have been different. My mum's dad, and dad's mum died within 8 weeks of each other last year. Before they died we always had a family meal on a Sunday, and sometimes, some people got s bit merry, some weeks we didn't, and it didn't seem a big deal.
However, now, my mum gets, to put it mildly, shitfaced most weeks, even if no one else does, and it's starting to get a bit...well, not embarrassing, but she ends up repeating herself for hours and hours and completely oblivious to everything. She's also not very dicreet when like this and it's caused some trouble in the past. And it now seems all family occasions end in the same way, Christmas, whatever, with my mum getting very very drunk. It's also starting to exclude us a bit, as with 1 toddler and a baby on the way it's not an ideal environment when drinking is the main focus.
I'm wondering if this is an explanation for some fairly reckless and odd behaviour towards my son which has been worrying me of late - perhaps she isn't dealing with her dad's death too well? And I know she had a health scare last year but nothing is ever really said in our family.
On the other hand, maybe I'm just more sober because I'm pregnant and notice more. But I'm not the only one who thinks things are a bit weird lately.
So do I broach it? I was going to talk to my dad and see if that helped. Or do I just stay well out of things and assume things will all be sorted/brushed under the carpet as usual?
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How would you know if someone was drinking too much and would you broach it?
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bohemianbint · 10/03/2008 13:38
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