I just feel really blah about my marriage. Weve been together a long time (20 yrs+). I feel like my DH is very selfish. He does absolutely FA with the kids (unless i organise it). Its all about him. He will go to sports matches but never takes the teenager as its beers and food after with the lads. I feel sad for him. He wants to watch sport on tv all the time (drives me insane). he wants to sit down with a beer and chill out so no one can make noise or he cant hear the telly. He books weekends away with his mates. He got invited to a work colleague wedding (no invite for me). His drinking is an issue. Ive kept tabs on his drinking this week and hes on average from Weds to Sun drank around 15-18 units daily. He flys off the handle, especially when drinking, if he makes something to eat and the kids dont like it or i dont like it. I do a lot to appease him and keep the peace. Its like treading on egg shells Its not a nice atmosphere sometimes. Ive talked to him about his drinking but he just dismisses it and minimises it. Its the old- Someone else drinks more than him and hes not drinking spirits so hes ok. Says he will cut down but doesnt. Idk its just not where i see myself. I just feel unhappy with life. We both work. Kids at school. He claims hes not got money but hes on just as much as me and i can afford and often do pay for clubs/gifts for kids birthdays etc. wheres all his money going.
I think ive got the ick in the bedroom dept. He’s generally pissed when he tries it on so thats off putting. Weve not done it for ages but when i say no he gets angry and stomps around. I just dont see him like that anymore. Ive worked out i could afford to run the house just about on my wage alone if he left.
Help me formulate a plan! How do i break it to him. I dont want to be on my own as a single parent but cant stand to stay as we are. Maybe some time apart??
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MarnieMumma · 17/01/2022 12:28
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