I'm part of a group of 8 friends. We have all been close for a few years, all have primary age children at school together and live close by.
One of the group is a typical queen bee - has to have a say on wether or not we can invite anyone else to join us, has to dictate what we do and when etc.
We used to get along really but a few incidents in the last few months have led me to distance myself a bit.
As examples, invited the rest of the group to join us for a day out in summer term. Laid out plans for the day, doing one activity in the morning and something else in the afternoon. This friend and two others came along, great fun for all the kids but she arrived late and complained all morning that her kids were bored that were desperate to get to the next thing (and they were, because she'd told them that's what we were doing - the rest of us hadn't). It really spoiled the morning.
Then in the summer I threw a big party for a big birthday, all friends and kids invited. She spent weeks before hand making snide comments about how she would never want a big party or to be the centre of attention etc etc.
Now are trying to organise a birthday dinner for one of the group. There are two potential dates that all of most of us can do. The first i am not free until later in the evening due to a volunteering commitment so I would miss the dinner, the second is the eve of Queen bees youngest son's 2nd birthday. She's completely ruled that out as she needs the evening to prepare for the birthday. The rest of the group have offered to help her with birthday prep, or book the meal for later in the evening on the alternative date (to which she replied that wouldn't work for her as she doesn't want to stay out late) and they've all private messaged me to say sorry that it's so tricky.
I don't want to be the one to make it difficult so I won't make a fuss but I'm feeling quite irked by it all!
I've distanced myself from spending much time just the two of us, though my daughter and her older son are very close. But i don't know how to address this without causing trouble for the kids or the group as a whole.
Do I just have to put up with it?
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Fed up of Queen Bee behaviour
Quickncjust4this · 22/11/2021 15:52
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