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thank you thank you alll!!!! update :D

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peanuts02 · 14/10/2021 21:17

Ladies, and gentlemen xx i want to thank you all so much for sharing your opinions on my last post i posted in February. I want to update you all and say that i have been accepted for a house and i should have my own place by mid november.
I know many of you were unsure if my original post was real, and i dont blame you. i deleted my account incase he found out i posted that. But i have created a new one just to let you know how truely greatful that i am to everyone that gave their views on my post. Every now and then i would go back and read through it all to remind myself that i am on the right path.
Thank you, i honestly feel so much better. I was offered a house in march but i turned it down out of the fear that i cant survive on my own. But this time i am ready.
Just thank you!! I will add a link to my previous post

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/4169289-Advice-please-on-sex

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whatsyournamethisismine · 14/10/2021 21:33

Well done @peanuts02. Hope you and your DC are really happy; you've done an amazing thing Thanks

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peanuts02 · 14/10/2021 21:37

@whatsyournamethisismine Thank you! im not sure the kids are to confident about it as this is all they know and i think the change is scary to them

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GoodnightGrandma · 14/10/2021 21:37

Well done.
Are you still living with him at the moment ?

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peanuts02 · 14/10/2021 21:44

@GoodnightGrandma Yes i am, and it actually helped me realise how much i dont love him. I know if i had moved out when i was offered the first house i would have very much doubted my choice. But still being here has made me know that i am making the right choice

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VioletVesper · 14/10/2021 21:55

Well done Peanuts, I’m so happy for you and your boys. Sending you lots of love and happiness Flowers

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Name99 · 14/10/2021 21:57

Are you safe at the moment still living with him?

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peanuts02 · 14/10/2021 21:59

@Name99 yes, he has tried to touch me a couple of times and was annoyed that i swatted his hands away. But i told him its my body and that they are unwanted advances. I sleep next to my kids and he works long shifts so i barely see him

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peanuts02 · 14/10/2021 22:00

@VioletVesper Thank you!

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AnyFucker · 14/10/2021 22:01

No offence, but I shall save my congratulations for when you are actually safe living permanently apart from him

Keep going but you are not there yet

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peanuts02 · 14/10/2021 22:07

@AnyFucker i shall keep you posted!

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Name99 · 14/10/2021 22:07

Is he aware that you are leaving?

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Mulhollandmagoo · 14/10/2021 22:09

Ah, good luck OP! What a brill post! I bet you're on countdown now Flowers

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peanuts02 · 14/10/2021 22:09

@Name99 yes he has known for a while and has already been out meeting with other women for "walks"

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peanuts02 · 14/10/2021 22:10

@Mulhollandmagoo Thank you, i may have had a celbratory wine this evening :D

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AnyFucker · 14/10/2021 22:10

I shall look forward to it 🙏

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peanuts02 · 14/10/2021 22:11

@anyfucker me too!

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Forgothowmuchlhatehomeschoolin · 14/10/2021 22:15

Aw well done for finding the strength to leave him op...wishing you and your children a lifetime of happiness xx

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peanuts02 · 14/10/2021 22:17

@Forgothowmuchlhatehomeschoolin thank you xx

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ANameChangeAgain · 14/10/2021 22:29

Congratulations. Only a month to go until you are out of there. Well done for being so strong. Flowers

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Sally872 · 14/10/2021 22:32

Great news! Well done for getting this organised. Hope it all goes as smoothly as possible. Flowers

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DamnUserName21 · 14/10/2021 22:41

You go, girl!!!! Flowers Wine

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FabacrombieAndBitch · 14/10/2021 22:44

Congratulations 👏🎉

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Beautiful3 · 14/10/2021 22:50

Well done Flowers

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Fluffycloudland77 · 14/10/2021 23:11

Reading your first thread made me feel ill, he’s a monster doing that to you. No one who loved you would do that.

Dh had a colleague into all that sort of thing and I always wondered how many women actually wanted to be at their “parties”.

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tootootaataa · 15/10/2021 20:26

BrewGinCakeThanks well done

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