Deleted her on Facebook

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Zig27 Thu 14-Oct-21 20:19:50

I met a woman a few years ago at a walking group. I have always been very nice to her when we have spoken and she says I’m a lovely person. She is a very negative person and drains your energy.

She has anxiety and she posts about her problems on Facebook which I will post something really helpful as she is asking for options. For some reason she always purposely disagrees with my advice yet anyone else who posts exactly the same advice she doesn’t have a go at them. She always wants to have a go at me and not others. She loves the drama and won’t sort her life out.

She has had a go at me again today and not others who have said the same advice as I have. I have just deleted her on Facebook as I have had enough of being taken for a mug. I sense some jealousy as in the past she said I was pretty and she didn’t feel attractive. Why do people have to be so ungrateful.

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wobblywinelover Thu 14-Oct-21 20:38:08

Well you've sorted the problem then. Some people are just strange and you'll never really know the real issue. it's the weird world we live in unfortunately

meadowbleu Thu 14-Oct-21 20:45:14

She's just who she is and you've reached your limit. You'll feel better for disengaging with her.

ErrmWTAF Thu 14-Oct-21 20:53:45

Why oh why do people treat FB-unfriending as some sort of heinous crime? OP, relax. You haven't committed a felony here. If you're not interested in their blethers, feel free to unfriend.

Yes, of course, one could simply Unfollow [her], but that still leaves her with access to /your/ information. And nobody has that gods-given right.

So, Unfriend and be serene.

Bluntness100 Thu 14-Oct-21 20:54:56

It’s Facebook
Not real life
Seriously it’s not a big deal

YukoandHiro Thu 14-Oct-21 21:00:43

I had a friend like this at university. A few years after we graduated I slowly began to realise what a massive energy suck she was and always managed to make me feel bad about myself or somehow guilty when I saw her. I stopped any contact with her a few years ago. I haven't missed her really

Honeyroar Thu 14-Oct-21 21:05:37

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Myotherusernamewastakenagain Thu 14-Oct-21 21:12:37

Bluntness100

It’s Facebook
Not real life
Seriously it’s not a big deal

Not sure I agree about your second point. It's not exactly a fantasy world.

OrangeJuiceAndNoodles Thu 14-Oct-21 21:31:03

Now you can luxuriate in not having to deal with her nonsense. Satisfying grin

ShirleyPhallus Thu 14-Oct-21 21:34:26

You’ve deleted her, move on and be glad to be drama free
Don’t engage with FB, it’s a waste of time
No one is every actually jealous of anyone, it’s such a lazy accusation to make

Zig27 Thu 14-Oct-21 21:38:33

ShirleyPhallus

You’ve deleted her, move on and be glad to be drama free
Don’t engage with FB, it’s a waste of time
No one is every actually jealous of anyone, it’s such a lazy accusation to make

What world you know about her not being jealous? She was jealous of most of the women at the walking group with some of the nasty remarks she made.

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IComeInPeace Thu 14-Oct-21 21:41:46

I can see why that's hurtful. I remember somebody, a relative, asking for netflix recommendations and i made a few which she ignored. Everybody else she was effusive in her thanks. Weird. I have figured out that my role to her is to be inferior and make her feel superior. That's what she needs from me. Not any kind of friendship confused

Shitapillar Thu 14-Oct-21 22:06:52

ShirleyPhallus

You’ve deleted her, move on and be glad to be drama free
Don’t engage with FB, it’s a waste of time
No one is every actually jealous of anyone, it’s such a lazy accusation to make

And that's just a stupid thing to say.

RoseChampagne Thu 14-Oct-21 22:12:44

Don't feel bad about deleting toxic people off FB - for me FB is for me and if there is some one on there who is making me feel like shit - I hide them/ unfollow them and if they are really toxic and I don't want them to see anything I do on FB I block them.

pictish Thu 14-Oct-21 22:17:01

I would have stopped commenting on her posts or offering advice.

ShirleyPhallus Thu 14-Oct-21 22:21:25

What world you know about her not being jealous? She was jealous of most of the women at the walking group with some of the nasty remarks she made.

I just don’t think that jealousy exists in the way that posters often suggest on MN. Almost every thread where a woman has acted badly to another, there is always a suggestion that she must be jealous. I just don’t think that women are so often jealous that they’re horrible to other women. I think the more likely conclusion is that the woman just doesn’t like the other one that much.

Buggritbuggrit Thu 14-Oct-21 23:27:29

Oooh, it’s you again! With your walking group, and your endless series of deeply unpleasant friends/colleagues/possible romantic interests/the cleaner at work.

Yes, she’s either wholly irrational or jealous of your wit and stunning good looks. Everyone you know seems to be. It must make life so difficult for you. flowers

Zig27 Thu 14-Oct-21 23:49:51

Buggritbuggrit

Oooh, it’s you again! With your walking group, and your endless series of deeply unpleasant friends/colleagues/possible romantic interests/the cleaner at work.

Yes, she’s either wholly irrational or jealous of your wit and stunning good looks. Everyone you know seems to be. It must make life so difficult for you. flowers

How creepy. Most people I know are nice rational people. Of course I’m only going to post about the difficult ones.

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Buggritbuggrit Fri 15-Oct-21 00:03:00

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TikTokBitches Fri 15-Oct-21 00:12:33

I had a "friend" like this, I actually never see her or talk to her anyway so I deleted her. Less than 24 hours later I got a friend request from her hmm

Zig27 Fri 15-Oct-21 07:10:58

To the majority, thank you for your advice. I should not feel guilty for cutting off a negative person and am better off.

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grapewine Fri 15-Oct-21 07:18:26

Why did you keep posting if she was unpleasant? Strange. But you can delete whomever you like from your feed. Odds are they won't care or even notice.

PutYourBackIntoit Fri 15-Oct-21 07:32:00

Sometimes people with anxiety or depression just want to be heard.
Advice, if followed, leads to Doing Something.
That can be difficult for a depressed person.

Zig27 Fri 15-Oct-21 07:36:08

grapewine

Why did you keep posting if she was unpleasant? Strange. But you can delete whomever you like from your feed. Odds are they won't care or even notice.

Thank you for pointing that out. I should respect myself more and not allow people to break boundaries.

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