Gay porn wwyd

(289 Posts)
Earmuffsweather Wed 13-Oct-21 15:46:43

If you found out your partner of 10+ years had been watching gay porn ie men on men

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TolpuddleFarter Wed 13-Oct-21 15:48:56

I would assume he is homosexual.

SammyScrounge Wed 13-Oct-21 15:51:49

Yes, I think he must be.

Lsquiggles Wed 13-Oct-21 15:54:27

It depends, has he been watching it regularly or is it a one off out of curiosity?

MrzClaus Wed 13-Oct-21 15:54:50

I'd have a frank chat with him and try and see if there is some sort of repressed sexual urges he has decided he needs to explore.

Honestly, it would be a dealbreaker for me!

Earmuffsweather Wed 13-Oct-21 15:57:56

I found it once years ago and assumed he’d just clicked on it by mistake or something this was over 8 years ago
Then found it again recently on my sons tablet I know its not my son as he’s young and said it was just on there when he turned it on

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tarasmalatarocks Wed 13-Oct-21 15:58:29

I’ve never met a 100% straight guy who didn’t find the idea of watching it repulsive. Maybe he is bi curious??

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bettycat81 Wed 13-Oct-21 15:58:55

I would talk to him, I wouldn't assume anything. As a female I watch various genres if porn - doesn't mean I'm wanting to do certain things or am a certain sexuality. Sometimes its just curiosity or voyeurism.

overthethamesfromyou Wed 13-Oct-21 15:59:43

On your son's tablet???angry

girlmom21 Wed 13-Oct-21 15:59:51

I'd be more concerned about him leaving porn on my childs tablet.

bettycat81 Wed 13-Oct-21 16:00:32

I'd be more worried about him watching and not deleting porn, of any genre, that a young child has access to.

Cheesepuff1 Wed 13-Oct-21 16:01:27

I'd speak to him and not assume anything. i recall reading the youporn survey they did showed 20something % of the time straight men were watching gayporn. straight and lesbian women watch it even more.

category12 Wed 13-Oct-21 16:02:12

I'd think he was bi, assuming you have a "normal" sex life.

If he's bi and you would accept him watching het porn (and you don't think he's playing away), then it might be kind of irrational to throw out the relationship.

If he has a low sex drive with you, then maybe he's gay and you're a beard.

tarasmalatarocks Wed 13-Oct-21 16:02:13

It doesnt just ‘come on’ — I think you know that deep down OP. Check the tablet cookies— if he isn’t using private browsing (and sometimes even when you do) a lot of these sites drop cookies and for them to be in their, then it’s been looked at, although if it’s the bigger sites it may just be a generic cookie like pornhub or something rather than anything that points to ‘gay’

Fluffypastelslippers Wed 13-Oct-21 16:02:31

Your young son found porn on his tablet and your concern is what genre it was hmm

Biancadelrioisback Wed 13-Oct-21 16:02:43

For some they like the 'taboo' nature of gay/lesbian/group porn. Doesn't mean they themselves are into that for sure. Could just be a curiosity/mixing things up type situation.

I'd be more upset about it being on your sons tablet. Porn of any description should be kept away from children full stop.

category12 Wed 13-Oct-21 16:02:55

Oh, on your son's tablet takes it to another level, tho.

Earmuffsweather Wed 13-Oct-21 16:05:51

@tarasmalatarocks it was my son who said it was just on there when he turned his tablet on,
Im not sure about searching cookies im not too tech savvy

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Sakurami Wed 13-Oct-21 16:06:14

Does he use your son's tablet? It's just maybe your son clicked on something by mistake?

I don't know if straight men would enjoy gay porn. I have heard that straight women enjoy lesbian porn.

cheshirebloke Wed 13-Oct-21 16:07:03

TolpuddleFarter

I would assume he is homosexual.

I wouldn't assume that. He might be gay, or he might be bi, or he might just be curious. But yes, most straight men wouldn't watch gay male porn with any regularity.

Nancydrawn Wed 13-Oct-21 16:07:30

Agree with the others--much more worrisome that he has crossed a serious boundary and watched porn on your son's tablet, which your son then found!

CareerConcerns1999 Wed 13-Oct-21 16:08:09

I would assume that, given that some straight women watch women on women, he is just interested.

The device he used is the issue imo.

driftcompatible Wed 13-Oct-21 16:08:13

On your child's tablet?! Get rid. That's repulsive. I don't even think the genre is an issue after that! He has exposed your child to porn. He is scum.

CareerConcerns1999 Wed 13-Oct-21 16:09:25

How old is your son?

Vallmo47 Wed 13-Oct-21 16:11:23

I came on to say the same as others, I’d be way more concerned he’s used your son’s tablet as he will now be exposed to similar things through advert recommendations etc. Also, he shouldn’t be able to access that on a child’s privacy settings full stop.
Once those things had been resolved (argued) about, then I’d consider having a discussion about him possibly being bisexual at the least.

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