Ok so i know it's late and there are alot of MN people out partying and everything but I have been pondering this question.
My dh and I have very different backgrounds. He a very small close knit family (only child), me a big messy family (5 siblings). My dad was a big scouse bullshit merchant (from a family of entertaining Scouse bullshitters) and my Mum has a very poorly concealed manhating streak. Sooo suffice to say though my family is good for affectionate pisstaking, being late for things and generally being disorganised... communication of our feelings was never a strong point. We all 'knew' we loved each other ('cept mum who wasn't too keen on dad - but that is another story) - but tend to show it in the way we related, and helped each other - rather than say I love you and hug and kiss all the time.
My dh on the other hand is very good at saying I love you etc. he does say it to me several times a week and always greets his parents with kiss and so on.
Am I a cold fish for not wanting to say 'I love you' at the drop of a hat - I think overuse devalues it and I prefer to put my love into the dinners I prepare, the cups of tea and thoughtful gestures iykwim? That sounds lame but hopefully I am making some sense. I get pee'd off with dh for using his ease with saying I love you as some kind of superiority in the relationship stakes - I would be more impressed if he did the washing up w/out being asked or whatever.
So do actions speak louder than words - or am I too reserved????
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actions speak louder than those 'three little words' - don't they?
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bigmyrrhstrikesagain · 01/12/2007 22:46
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