Tell me not to message him

(61 Posts)
gindreams Thu 22-Jul-21 18:27:07

I feel obsessed with a man who has slept with me and ghosted me or at least isn't replying anymore

I think if I don't message him I will never hear from him again so please tell me not to message him

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WunWun Thu 22-Jul-21 18:28:44

Messaging him isn't going to make him reply. The only difference will be that you'll not hear back from him AND feel like shit for sending the message.

Imjustsootired Thu 22-Jul-21 18:29:47

NO.
If you do, he won't reply and you'll feel desperate. It's always hard when ur ghosted but NO. Retain your dignity. There is nothing to gain here but embarrassment. X

MadMadMadamMim Thu 22-Jul-21 18:29:59

Visualise him reading your message and sniggering as he shows it to his mates/other woman he is with!

That should be enough to keep you strong and not messaging! If he wants to be in touch he will be, and if he doesn't then messages from you will not make him change his mind.

gindreams Thu 22-Jul-21 18:43:05

Thank you ! I feel better already

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FlowerArranger Thu 22-Jul-21 18:48:26

Don't let men mess you about!! Not ever.

Time to pull up your big girl's pants and take charge of your life flowers

layladomino Thu 22-Jul-21 18:51:49

Good for you. Know your worth. If he doesn't want to be with you then he doesn't deserve you pining for him.

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Xztop Thu 22-Jul-21 19:29:51

Dont do it! The feeling after when he doesn't reply is 1000 worse than you feel now. I say this from experience!

Maggiesfarm Thu 22-Jul-21 19:31:59

Don't message him.

It hurts terribly but is best left. You will get over it. He's a coward, it's wrong to sleep with someone and then not speak to them but that's how it is and you can't change it.

flowers

Babymamamama Thu 22-Jul-21 19:32:13

Keep your dignity. Delete and block. You deserve better and will only get that with somebody else.

ItPearl Thu 22-Jul-21 19:34:23

No dont. He is probably waiting for you people pleasing text. Dont send it.

gindreams Thu 22-Jul-21 19:50:02

Thanks again ! I pop back onto the thread to remind myself not to message him !

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CupoTeap Thu 22-Jul-21 19:50:50

When you want to message post here instead

66babe Thu 22-Jul-21 20:19:28

Give your phone to a friend and get them to delete his number and delete all his SM
That will help

seensome Thu 22-Jul-21 20:29:48

You'd be boosting his ego dont do it, let him think he's not that desirable. Put your effort into finding someone that appreciates you.

Queynte13 Thu 22-Jul-21 20:40:05

Dignity
Dignity
Dignity

Rainbowqueeen Thu 22-Jul-21 20:43:50

Delete and block

He’s made his intentions clear
If you message him his reaction will be that you are someone he can message anytime he feels horny and wants a no strings shag without putting any effort in. Is that what you want??
Blocking and deleting shows him you are not interested

Iwantatrio Thu 22-Jul-21 20:59:12

Block him. Pretend you’ve had the Men In Black treatment and can’t remember him.

ScrollingLeaves Thu 22-Jul-21 20:59:15

Remember it’s not just that he slept with you. You slept with him.

You are not his passive thing to use and discard, and he is self evidently not good enough for you. Why would you want to message him? Why would you even dream of seeing him again?

Don’t message. And if this leaves him hankering ( because he didn’t get the satisfaction of you begging him and he has a yen to see if he can reel you back in) don’t be taken in. Ignore.

It is a good idea to delete and block his number.

gindreams Thu 22-Jul-21 21:14:36

Thank you all !

Blocked and deleted !

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gindreams Thu 22-Jul-21 21:14:59

It wasn't even that great I don't know why I get obsessed with arseholes

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ScrollingLeaves Thu 22-Jul-21 21:57:57

Well done for deleting and blocking - because you have agency, because you don’t like men like him anyway, and because you will not be bothering with any more of that ilk.

OliveToboogie Thu 22-Jul-21 22:02:48

Please don't message him keep your dignity. For all you know he has blocked you anyway. He saw you as a fxxx sorry. If you message him he will tell his mates you are a crazy stalker. Don't give him the satisfaction.

Maggiesfarm Thu 22-Jul-21 22:24:35

Good for you gindreams!

Yescheese Fri 23-Jul-21 00:33:25

Don't message him!! If he was interested you would know. You are dignified, graceful and self sufficient.

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