I've recently suffered a life changing bereavement (lost my husband 2 weeks ago)
I'm in pieces.
My mother who has been very hard work all my life really has shown her true colours the last 2 weeks.
She was good at first very supportive when I needed her as dh was dying. It was a very awful week and she seemed to thrive on the attention that went her way, excited almost. Seemed a chance to show everyone how fantastic she was.(she lost my dad 14 years ago so I thought she understood.
My friend has also been fantastic too, went above and beyond for me and my dd and still is. Very organised and matter of fact as well as supportive and I've leared on her a little more as my mum is 72, disabled and to be honest quite nasty about people
My mum made food for the wake at my house, only for about 15 people, she didn't have to but she insisted then moaned about how hot and tired she was and acted dramatic.
She kicked off at the funeral because she wasn't allowed to swap pews to be near me in the front..social distancing. Announced very loudly MY DAUGHTER NEEDS ME.
.sobbed dramatically in pauses.
Then the ultimate.. called my friend a fucking bitch because she cuddled me in the hallway of my house at the wake and I broke down.
Told me yesterday I'd get ok on 2 weeks and to get on with it
Pushing me to get on with clearing his stuff and then getting arsy and huffy when I say I can't. Stepdad wants to put up a desk for me before they go on holiday and I'm not ready to clear stuff yet..I've said it can wait till they get back
Then in a really horrible voice..referring to her grief when she lost my dad 'not nice is it's
She was vile to me when my dad died.
Just needed to get it off my chest..I suppose
As the weeks have gone up she's become really cold and standoffish with me because I don't want to lean on her as much.
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My mother is a horrible person
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blackheartsgirl · 22/07/2021 12:11
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