NC'd for this as I didn't want it linked to my other posts.
After two years I've just broken up with a man I now know (mostly thanks to MN) to be a textbook narcissist. Some of his traits included:
- love bombing and future faking right from the start. I thought I'd hit the jackpot (how wrong I was)
- the insane ex who had the affair that ended their marriage
- the same ex who now apparently tries to stop him seeing their young daughters
- gaslighting
- breadcrumbing (now I'm out of it I can see that he had me like a fish on a hook. I'm so ashamed)
- he was never at fault for anything, ever
- hero complex (particularly around his job)
- obsessive eating patterns
- subtle but persistent criticism of things I did
- flat out denial that he ever hurt me, despite treating me like something on his shoe for the last few months of our 'relationship'.
It ended because I found out he was with someone else. He's an arsehole and I'm a million times better off without him. But why is it so, so hard to get over him?