So the parent is a narcissist and one child is the golden child and the other is the scapegoat. The scapegoat went LC but there was recent contact with the golden child about something not related to the family situation, initially, but the conversation turned to difficulties in childhood and the scapegoat is honest about their feelings about their parents - but says it is behind them, their childhood was abusive but they built a good life for themselves. The golden child gets upset, says that she just wants everyone to get along, that she doesn't want to be dragged into a conversation which criticises her (her) parents, it isn't her responsibility. The scapegoat says she spoke her mind about something which happened to her, it wasn't intended to offend golden child. Golden child doesn't see the parent as narcissistic, or abusive or herself as a golden child. Who is right here? Should the scapegoat not say anything about the abuse for fear of upsetting the golden child? Should the golden child see that the scapegoat's story is not about her, it is about the scapegoat, and the scapegoat has the right to speak as she feels? I can't say who I am in this scenario, I am worried about someone recognising themselves which will cause even more trouble.
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