I am very scared of my daughter who is in her early 20s. However, I need to tell her she needs to leave my property.
I do not live there, but she moved in without my permission because my mother gave her the keys and moved her in there without my knowledge although she knew I wanted to sell it.
She has been very violent and unstable since puberty. She was given all kinds of help and was even given a hostel where her friend lived too. However, she simply left as it wasn’t good enough for her and she didn’t want to stay and wait.
She lives a champagne lifestyle funded by my mother. She doesn’t want to have any responsibilities or to grow up at all.
She said she has Borderline Personality Disorder and I don’t know if this is an official diagnosis or not. She said she read it on the internet.
I don’t know what to do as she threatens me with violence. She has also teamed up with her father who violently abused me. When I left him he stalked me for years and continued to violently attack me in public in the street. He would break in and stand at the end of my bed in the early hours of the morning. I could go on and on about the scary and horrific things he did. He even attacked people who had any association with me. The courts and the police warned me my life was in danger and that he “lacked empathy.”
When she got wind that I wanted to sell before, she drove a good few miles to my home to threaten me. She started kicking my door continuously screaming and shouting. She then started to approach my neighbours and was shouting obscenities about me.
We called the police and she was laughing saying I am going to wait for them.
They took her away and spoke to us. She turned on the manipulative tears to the police.
I have a crime reference number.
My mother called me and berated me for calling the police. I grew up in a very violent home and I was very affected by it, but always tried to soldier on. I ended up seriously ill in hospital last year, which I think was caused by being surrounded by constant bullying.
I have even been too scared to go in the property to take photos.
Can anybody give me any advice or solutions on how I can approach this?
I am terrified.
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Litgal · 04/06/2021 17:31
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