Page 3 | Ex jailed for DV yesterday

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ode2me Thu 06-May-21 20:13:05

I had a short relationship last year that quickly became very abusive in every way. I had suffered serious child abuse and hadn't yet learnt the warning signs.

The last incident was the worst. Toddler in the next room crying and my head being stomped on repeatedly.

7 months later yesterday he was found guilty of ABH with a weapon and assault by battery.
He was sentenced to 15 months in prison and i was granted a 10 year restraining order.

I just wanted to tell you that there is life after DV. I wish you all the very best.

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BrilliantBetty Fri 07-May-21 20:40:19

* I hope he isn't hurt though. I don't wish it on anyone.*

May he have it hard in there. He can ROT for what he's done.

He's vermin and for what he did to you, deserves not one once of your sympathy OP. Every minute he spends in there he brought upon himself!! And it's a shame it's not double.

Queenie6655 Fri 07-May-21 20:52:54

Amazing work

This thread and your bravery have reaffirmed that I am doing the right thing
At one point I wanted to back out
Was worried about how he would cope with the police in his case

Well done

You can get through it all

The body holds on to trauma in many ways
If you can maybe took for support? Psychotherapy ?

Lots of good wishes to you both xxx

TheWeeDonkey Fri 07-May-21 21:18:28

@ode2me flowers

ode2me Mon 31-May-21 12:31:36

Queenie6655

Amazing work

This thread and your bravery have reaffirmed that I am doing the right thing
At one point I wanted to back out
Was worried about how he would cope with the police in his case

Well done

You can get through it all

The body holds on to trauma in many ways
If you can maybe took for support? Psychotherapy ?

Lots of good wishes to you both xxx


How are you Queenie?

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Orgasmagorical Mon 31-May-21 12:45:05

ode2me, your words have sent shivers up my spine and brought tears to my eyes. I wonder what the outcome would have been if your phone hadn't stayed on and provided the evidence. For this one 'man' to have what amounts to a slap on the wrist for what he has done, there are thousands who have got away with it all.

Much respect to you for all you have done and for posting. Thank you flowers

UseOfWeapons Mon 31-May-21 13:24:08

OP, living IS possible, it takes a while, plenty of kind support, and nurturing yourself. You have been very brave and strong, and my heart goes out to you.
I fled my exH2 and did not take action against him. I was living in his home country, and it was difficult enough getting out and back to the UK.
My reactions and emotions were erratic for a long time, and I had an IDVA who was amazing in the first 2years. I also had various therapies, and did the Freedom Programme. It all helped. I still have issues, but I grit my teeth and carry on. Most of the time, I am content, because I have survived.
You have done everything you can for your little girl, and she will grow into a stronger, happier woman with you as her mother. Please remember to look after yourself, and take the time and help you feel you can cope with. We are all different, and react and readjust in different ways. You will find your way, with your daughter beside you.

Wishing health, happiness and strength, dear OP. 💐💐

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