Ex jailed for DV yesterday

(56 Posts)
ode2me Thu 06-May-21 20:13:05

I had a short relationship last year that quickly became very abusive in every way. I had suffered serious child abuse and hadn't yet learnt the warning signs.

The last incident was the worst. Toddler in the next room crying and my head being stomped on repeatedly.

7 months later yesterday he was found guilty of ABH with a weapon and assault by battery.
He was sentenced to 15 months in prison and i was granted a 10 year restraining order.

I just wanted to tell you that there is life after DV. I wish you all the very best.

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SandysMam Thu 06-May-21 20:14:26

Well done Op for getting away and for standing up to him. I wish you and your little one every happiness for the future!

itsgettingwierd Thu 06-May-21 20:14:51

Well done for having the courage to report.

Glad he got punished.

All the best for you and your DC for the future thanks

Mumteedum Thu 06-May-21 20:23:07

Just so sorry for what you have been through and what strength that must have taken to get to this point.

Wish the animal had got a longer sentence but v glad about the restraining order.

How are you doing and your child? flowers

youvegottenminuteslynn Thu 06-May-21 21:05:03

Bloody you poor thing. Thank god you and little one are safe now thanks

stillsleeptraining Thu 06-May-21 21:08:07

Very pleased about the outcome but so sorry you went through this x

Onthedunes Thu 06-May-21 21:09:43

Brave woman, I wish you all the luck in the world for your future happiness.



Lougle Thu 06-May-21 21:10:32

Well done for being so brave and taking it to court. I'm sure the restraining order is more comfort than the sentence.

AdaFuckingShelby Thu 06-May-21 21:12:24

So glad you got out safely and he is now facing the consequences of his actions flowers

RandomMess Thu 06-May-21 21:14:15

Well done for reporting and seeing it through thanks

Thoughtcontagion Thu 06-May-21 21:16:45

flowers you’re amazing! Wishing you a very happy future x

Landlubber2019 Thu 06-May-21 21:18:06

Wishing you a very happy future op flowers

StepawayfromtheBiscuittin Thu 06-May-21 21:19:10

Well done OP. Wishing you and your child well.

WorkHardPlayHard1 Thu 06-May-21 21:29:40

Wow!!! Well done for protecting yourself and your child from this monster.
You deserve all the love and luck in the world for your strength and courage XXX 💪😘🙌

ode2me Thu 06-May-21 21:33:15

Thank you all so much.
We are doing okay. Myself less and my three year old more.
She never mentions him now. She was just shy of three when it happened. Closer to four now but hadn't mentioned him in months. I know she remembers. I feel awful for that.

When the 999 call was played in court my toddler could clearly be heard saying "I'm scared." Unforgivable.

Thank you again so much

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BreakfastClub80 Thu 06-May-21 21:36:26

Bless you OP, it wasn’t your fault flowers

getyourfreakon Thu 06-May-21 22:05:55

thanks So glad this had a good outcome for you

Yellowswan Thu 06-May-21 22:16:51

OMG, your last post is heartbreaking. Your poor girl.
But just know that you saved her. What a fantastic and brave mum you are 💐

Namechangedforthistoday Thu 06-May-21 22:20:41

What a pathetic sentence for such a horrific crime.

thebestnamehere Thu 06-May-21 22:22:52

Been through this myself, well done you x you escaped x please let yourself heal and live for your child, she needs you. Men are just a waste of space, you're better off alone xx. I wish you all the best xx

HollowTalk Thu 06-May-21 22:24:05

15 months for stamping on a woman's head while his toddler is crying in the next room?

What the hell is going on in sentencing? I would love a Q&A with a judge over that.

Queenie6655 Thu 06-May-21 22:26:24

Wow wow wow

So sad to hear this happened but so proud of how many brave women take this to court

I'm up in court in a matter of weeks
Similar circumstances

I'm so scared
Thank you for sharing your experience

CombatBarbie Thu 06-May-21 22:32:53

The bit about court playing the 999 call sent shivers down my spine. I am so glad you and DD got out and are safe. Out of interest, who made the 999 call?

ode2me Thu 06-May-21 23:20:05


The bit about court playing the 999 call sent shivers down my spine. I am so glad you and DD got out and are safe. Out of interest, who made the 999 call?

There were two assaults that day. After the first I had managed to get him out of the flat and immediately rung 999 for help. He was trying to break the front door in.

During the call I noticed a rustle behind me and had then realised he had climbed a window into the flat to continue the assault. I was pulled over a child's safety gate by the hair and onto the floor. That's when the stomping happened.

Somehow the call stayed active when knocked from my hands.

I feel lucky. And sad. So sad.

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wtfisgoingonhere21 Thu 06-May-21 23:41:55

Op your post just made my blood run cold

What a a strong person you are to have gone through that and come out the other side with a conviction and restraining order.

We read so many situations that are like yours and it's not until it's sadly too late that it all comes to light

Take time to heal yourself emotionally op

I don't want to say well done or congratulations as it sounds so wrong but remind yourself every day how far you've come and how it could have ended had you not got the help when you did thanksthanks

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