DH not happy that I change clothes in the evening

(953 Posts)
DataColour Wed 05-May-21 21:34:10

Not brave enough to put this in AIBU.

I'm sick of DH telling me off for changing into "lounge wear" typically a hoodie and trackie bottoms in the evening. He says I look nice during the day when I am at work ( casual dress code) but in the evening as the kids are going to bed 8-9pm I change out of day clothes. Isn't this normal? He wants me to stay "dressed" till I go to bed (which is what he does). I want to tell him to f off.
He's just stormed out of the house because I'd dare to put a pair of joggers and a hoodie on. I've had enough of his 1950s attitude. It really upsets me.

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Horehound Wed 05-May-21 21:35:42

Yes it's normal! he doesn't sound very nice.

Betalife Wed 05-May-21 21:35:50

Tell him to F off.

Or provide for you so you can be a housewife. Can’t have it both ways.

SpottyOrange Wed 05-May-21 21:36:09

Is he an arse about other things?

Passthecake30 Wed 05-May-21 21:36:26

Wow. If you can’t get comfy in your own home where can you? He sounds really superficial.
Dp and I put joggers on as soon as when we’re home. Then I go one better and put my nightwear and dressing gown on by about 8pm.

Timeforabiscuit Wed 05-May-21 21:37:25

What the jeff! Is he coming down to dinner in white tie?

Why on earth doesn't he want you to be comfortable?

Apileofballyhoo Wed 05-May-21 21:37:28

Does he storm off as a regular thing? YANBU. He sounds awful.


toffeebutterpopcorn Wed 05-May-21 21:37:39

I’d be tempted to wear wedding dress/ball gown in the evenings - which of course means no cooking or housework as you might crack your nail polish or break out into an unladylike swear.

JetBlackSteed Wed 05-May-21 21:37:41

He's the odd one not changing, surely?
Everyone does. What does he stay "dressed" in? Office wear or jeans?

Cockenspiel Wed 05-May-21 21:37:41

Seriously?! He is this much of a baby?

How depressingly tedious it must be to live with such a sexist dickhead.

Sorry OP wine

MrsElijahMikaelson1 Wed 05-May-21 21:37:47

Yes he’s an arse and no YRNBU

Iggly Wed 05-May-21 21:37:54

Does he think you’re an ornament?

Laaaaa Wed 05-May-21 21:37:56

Does he get passed off about other stuff

ForgedInFire Wed 05-May-21 21:38:01

I change into pyjamas or lounge wear as soon as I walk in the door! What a strange reaction. Is it because he finds you really attractive in your day clothes? Or he finds it lazy?

toffeebutterpopcorn Wed 05-May-21 21:38:02

Sweat not swear (maybe).

LawnFever Wed 05-May-21 21:38:02

How bloody weird! Tbh I often just put my PJs on around 9pm if I want to feel more comfy - you’re a grown woman he doesn’t get to tell you how to dress!

Poppypye Wed 05-May-21 21:38:17

Anytime after tea I have a shower and put my pjs on , so does my bf .
I like my comfort and I'm not going to sit in my work stuff etc

RedAzalea Wed 05-May-21 21:39:03

has he always been like this?

MusicMenu Wed 05-May-21 21:39:15

I have to admit, it feels like DH can't be bothered for me when he's scruffy at home but makes an effort for the time he spends with everyone else. I'm sure I'd be unreasonable to complain, but it would be nice if he didn't take me quite so much for granted.

Fixitup2 Wed 05-May-21 21:39:34

PJ’s and dressing gown as soon as I get in here, with no bra. Can be anything from 1pm-6pm. The husband doesn’t comment as it’s none of his business.

AllHallowsEve14 Wed 05-May-21 21:39:56

This is...just fucking weird! Everyone I know puts comfy stuff on as soon as they get home. Fuck him!

Mum2jenny Wed 05-May-21 21:40:21

I’ve got really comfy velour type top and bottoms that are nice to change into once I’ve had a shower after work. My dh calls them my ‘Karen outfit’ and he will call me Karen when I’m wearing them. I just ignore him at this point which drives him nuts.

LST Wed 05-May-21 21:40:40

Jesus christ. He is a prick. I'd pack all his clothes in a bag and leave them on the doorstep for his return

Notonthestairs Wed 05-May-21 21:40:55

What an extreme reaction to something which has zero bearing on him.

If my DH left every time I swapped to lounge wear he'd barely be at home.

Lelophants Wed 05-May-21 21:40:58

It's ridiculous. Listen to your gut.

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