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DH not happy that I change clothes in the evening

953 replies

DataColour · 05/05/2021 21:34

Not brave enough to put this in AIBU.

I'm sick of DH telling me off for changing into "lounge wear" typically a hoodie and trackie bottoms in the evening. He says I look nice during the day when I am at work ( casual dress code) but in the evening as the kids are going to bed 8-9pm I change out of day clothes. Isn't this normal? He wants me to stay "dressed" till I go to bed (which is what he does). I want to tell him to f off.
He's just stormed out of the house because I'd dare to put a pair of joggers and a hoodie on. I've had enough of his 1950s attitude. It really upsets me.

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Horehound · 05/05/2021 21:35

Yes it's normal! he doesn't sound very nice.

Betalife · 05/05/2021 21:35

Tell him to F off.

Or provide for you so you can be a housewife. Can’t have it both ways.

SpottyOrange · 05/05/2021 21:36

Is he an arse about other things?

Passthecake30 · 05/05/2021 21:36

Wow. If you can’t get comfy in your own home where can you? He sounds really superficial.
Dp and I put joggers on as soon as when we’re home. Then I go one better and put my nightwear and dressing gown on by about 8pm.

Timeforabiscuit · 05/05/2021 21:37

What the jeff! Is he coming down to dinner in white tie?

Why on earth doesn't he want you to be comfortable?

Apileofballyhoo · 05/05/2021 21:37

Does he storm off as a regular thing? YANBU. He sounds awful.

toffeebutterpopcorn · 05/05/2021 21:37

I’d be tempted to wear wedding dress/ball gown in the evenings - which of course means no cooking or housework as you might crack your nail polish or break out into an unladylike swear.

Cockenspiel · 05/05/2021 21:37

Seriously?! He is this much of a baby?

How depressingly tedious it must be to live with such a sexist dickhead.

Sorry OP Wine

JetBlackSteed · 05/05/2021 21:37

He's the odd one not changing, surely?
Everyone does. What does he stay "dressed" in? Office wear or jeans?

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 05/05/2021 21:37

Yes he’s an arse and no YRNBU

Iggly · 05/05/2021 21:37

Does he think you’re an ornament?

Laaaaa · 05/05/2021 21:37

Does he get passed off about other stuff

ForgedInFire · 05/05/2021 21:38

I change into pyjamas or lounge wear as soon as I walk in the door! What a strange reaction. Is it because he finds you really attractive in your day clothes? Or he finds it lazy?

LawnFever · 05/05/2021 21:38

How bloody weird! Tbh I often just put my PJs on around 9pm if I want to feel more comfy - you’re a grown woman he doesn’t get to tell you how to dress!

toffeebutterpopcorn · 05/05/2021 21:38

Sweat not swear (maybe).

Poppypye · 05/05/2021 21:38

Anytime after tea I have a shower and put my pjs on , so does my bf .
I like my comfort and I'm not going to sit in my work stuff etc

RedAzalea · 05/05/2021 21:39

has he always been like this?

MusicMenu · 05/05/2021 21:39

I have to admit, it feels like DH can't be bothered for me when he's scruffy at home but makes an effort for the time he spends with everyone else. I'm sure I'd be unreasonable to complain, but it would be nice if he didn't take me quite so much for granted.

Fixitup2 · 05/05/2021 21:39

PJ’s and dressing gown as soon as I get in here, with no bra. Can be anything from 1pm-6pm. The husband doesn’t comment as it’s none of his business.

AllHallowsEve14 · 05/05/2021 21:39

This is...just fucking weird! Everyone I know puts comfy stuff on as soon as they get home. Fuck him!

Mum2jenny · 05/05/2021 21:40

I’ve got really comfy velour type top and bottoms that are nice to change into once I’ve had a shower after work. My dh calls them my ‘Karen outfit’ and he will call me Karen when I’m wearing them. I just ignore him at this point which drives him nuts.

LST · 05/05/2021 21:40

Jesus christ. He is a prick. I'd pack all his clothes in a bag and leave them on the doorstep for his return

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Notonthestairs · 05/05/2021 21:40

What an extreme reaction to something which has zero bearing on him.

If my DH left every time I swapped to lounge wear he'd barely be at home.

Lelophants · 05/05/2021 21:40

It's ridiculous. Listen to your gut.

AlbusSeverusMalfoy · 05/05/2021 21:41

@Fixitup2

PJ’s and dressing gown as soon as I get in here, with no bra. Can be anything from 1pm-6pm. The husband doesn’t comment as it’s none of his business.

Same here. Get in from the school run, if I'm not going out, bra off pjs on. DH has never said a word. I suffer cramps and stomach aches, so comfy is best for me.
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