DP has form for being a bit flirty. He is a chatty person, but at times I have let him know he seems to have been just a little too chatty with some women and its made me a bit uncomfortable.
I have also, in the past, clocked him having a look at good looking women when weve been out. Just a glance and thats fine. I'm not saying he can't look at anyone as long as its just a glance and not full on letching.
At the weekend we went out and I left him to put something in a bin and he was waiting by the door to a shop. A woman walks past, and he full on looked her up and down, turned his head to watch her as she passed him and then actually turned his whole body so he could continue looking at her.
He then seemed to remember me and looked over, but the whole thing just left me feeling really hurt. He was properly checking her out. He may as well been dribbling and panting like a bloody puppy. And I just felt a bit shit really. She was pretty, slim and probably 10 years younger than me.
he has told me in the past I am the only person for him, he could never look at another woman yadda yadda, which is obviously bullshit. I mean not like she was walking down the street in a bikini and heels or with flshing lights above her head and drawing attention to herself. I felt like I should apologise to her for my letching BF!
Am I totally over reacting to this or would anyone else feel pretty damn disrespected? We have had a few arguments lately, but who hasn't after being copped up because of covid. I just feel he either totally forgot I was there, thought I couldn't see him, or just didn't care.
And I'm also now thinking, if he's like this when I'm with him, what the hell is he like when I'm not?
After that incident, I did keep a bit of an eye on where he was looking and he also 'checked out' 3 other pretty, slim, younger women. Not in the same way but he did look a little longer than I would consider a casual glance in someones direction. One he did a second take at.
I have told him how I felt a bit hurt and disrespected by the first incident and that I'd clocked the others, and he does not seem sorry he hurt mu feelings, he just seems annoyed that I'm hurt by it.
Do I need to give my head a wobble or am I justified in feeling like this? I actually feel a bit betrayed I suppose. I'm aware that being cooped up for lockdown and desperately needing a haircut and feeling a bit crap about myself may be contributing to this.
I can't look at him today. All I keep seeing is his face following that woman and he clearly wasn't just admiring her handbag or thinking he'd like a game of scrabble with her.
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Would this bother you. Am I overreacting to this
bookworm20 · 04/05/2021 11:38
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