My partner of 2 years decided he was going to move back to his house as he wants to renovate it and not let it out anymore. We've had some problems but he was always just going to move out at the end of March and we'd still carry on in a relationship. Whether that was his intention or not I don't know.
Mid March he moved some more stuff out and stayed the night at his house after visiting his mother, and then he basically didn't come back. The night he spent at his house just affirmed that he wanted to live alone or at least not with me, and he didn't want to continue with our relationship. He came over two days later,and surprised me with a break up. I say surprise, I wasn't really but was upset obviously.
I've tried to get over it during the past 6 weeks but I'm really struggling and would appreciate some advice.
We don't have children together but we have a dog. Previously he showed no interest in taking the dog but he wants him at weekends. Full disclosure he paid paid the purchase price of the dog but I did all the rearing and day to day care as I work from home. Dog still lives with me.
Whilst it's not my business what he now does in his spare time, he started dating very quickly and took the dog on a date. I can't let go of the fact that it's our dog and two weeks after leaving he was taking him out with another woman. Which I think is a silly way to think but I can't seem to change my way of thinking. I tried to cut complete contact but he wouldn't let me, he threatened to take the dog to his mums (she hates me) which triggered a really bad episode for me.
He simply has moved on, has a new girlfriend, we're not on good terms because I've just been abandoned and I feel such rage that he's just moved on from day 1.
He agreed to let me have a month of no communication meaning he doesn't see the dog and he hopes that after a month I'll be able to tolerate him picking the dog up. But I know I won't....I know I will be bitter that I do all the grunt work, he takes dog off for a jolly weekend with his new girlfriend. It's that constant reminder.
Any advice on how I can stop being a muppet?I'm disappointed in myself
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Howtomoveon21 · 29/04/2021 06:55
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