How much younger is much..?

(187 Posts)
HowMuchYoungerIsTooMuch Sun 25-Apr-21 18:44:19

OK. So I met a man about 3 or 4 years ago. We had a lot of chemistry. Nothing happened but we were clearly very attracted to each other.

Anyway, circumstances happened, we lost contact and then covid hit and I haven't seen him for a couple of years.

I bumped into him yesterday - he was working so we couldn't really chat but he messaged me in the evening to say it had been a really nice surprise. We've exchanged a few messages back and forth and it's clear we both still find each other attractive.

I'm not interested in a relationship, i wouldn't be a serious prospect for him anyway.

Would a summer fling - just a bit of fun - be a ridiculous idea?

I've just turned 46, he's 25.

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DrinkRefilled Sun 25-Apr-21 18:47:07

I’m 37 and would find it weird going with a 25 year old. I’d feel like his mother. And it would make me feel older than I already do.

Marineboy67 Sun 25-Apr-21 18:47:14

Bit of summer fun & rumpy pumpy sounds fine. He was 21 when you met him, he was a new born baby when you were 21.

MMmomDD Sun 25-Apr-21 18:48:08

Of course a fling is OK...
Back when you just met him - and he was 21 - I’d possibly say be a bit careful as he is still quite young. And people’s brains don’t stop maturing till about 24.
But he is a little older now, so both are now consenting adults.
Have fun

StColumbofNavron Sun 25-Apr-21 18:49:01

Definitely go for a bit of summer fun.

Member589500 Sun 25-Apr-21 18:50:11

As long as it’s just fun times go ahead. Be kind. Walk away when it’s not fun.

autumnalrain Sun 25-Apr-21 18:51:13

I personally find it disturbing, you could be his mum

icdtap Sun 25-Apr-21 18:51:27

Fun is fine.
Don't expect it to turn into anything else though.

Amdone123 Sun 25-Apr-21 18:53:21

Why not ? No one bats an eyelid at a young woman with an older man.

Sunnyday321 Sun 25-Apr-21 18:55:16

No , as much as the ' idea ' of it might seem great and exciting , it's best to not go there.

RulesDontApply2Me Sun 25-Apr-21 18:57:36

Have a great summer OP 😉

HowMuchYoungerIsTooMuch Sun 25-Apr-21 19:04:19

Oh I absolutely wouldn't want it to become anything else. It would be ridiculous to even consider that.

I don't know. Maybe I'm just running away with the idea. But some fun and some sex would be nice, you know?

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HowMuchYoungerIsTooMuch Sun 25-Apr-21 19:05:38

Sunnyday321

No , as much as the ' idea ' of it might seem great and exciting , it's best to not go there.

Out of interest, why?

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BackforGood Sun 25-Apr-21 19:06:55

Ridiculous idea.
You could be a similar age to his Mum.

Have a word with yourself.

SunnySpills Sun 25-Apr-21 19:10:50

I don't understand this problem with age gaps between grown up
fully functioning adults.
I mean it's one of the last discriminations , no other kind of difference would be tolerated nowadays.
Just do what makes you both happy, op and to hell with what strangers
think.

StColumbofNavron Sun 25-Apr-21 19:18:46

OP isn’t his mum though and he is a grown up.

OP I have been here, it was a lot of fun. Enjoy.

Happycat1212 Sun 25-Apr-21 19:30:40

Wow I'm 32 and wouldn't go with a 25 year old!

partyatthepalace Sun 25-Apr-21 19:37:41

Fling sounds a great idea. You are both adults (and he has been an adult for some time, he’s not 18.) ignore the grumps.
Have a fun summer!

Dolciedolly Sun 25-Apr-21 19:43:14

I am 47 and would go for it do it have fun I did at 34 within a 22 year old although he wanted to take it further I said no

oopsydaisyyy Sun 25-Apr-21 19:51:54

im 31 and i wouldn't!

I know that he's an adult etc but gosh if that was my son, the age gap would piss me off! Your old enough to be his mum! Having said that some guys enjoy older women! Why not have a fling with someone your age? Sorry, just my opinion smile

HowMuchYoungerIsTooMuch Sun 25-Apr-21 19:52:00

It would just be nice to have a bit of a summer romance with someone lovely. Just carefree and without expectation.

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BackforGood Sun 25-Apr-21 20:26:33

Why not ? No one bats an eyelid at a young woman with an older man.

I don't agree with you.
I would feel exactly the same about my 25 yr old dd being taken advantage of by a 46 yr old man as I would my 25 yr old ds being taken advantage of by a 46 yr old woman (or same sex relationship).

I was with a bunch of 24 and 25 yr old lads this morning (watching football). Trust me, 24/25 yr olds haven't 'grown up' yet.

There is a MN rule of thumb that says if you halve the age of the older person, then add 7 years, that is an acceptable gap. It makes a lot of sense.
So, the youngest person a 46 yr old should go out with is a 30 yr old according to that wisdom.

Miranda15110 Sun 25-Apr-21 20:41:16

Oh god no. Totally gross 🤢

NioRT Sun 25-Apr-21 20:52:23

I would say no to this. The gap is huge. I would say the same about a man too.

MadMadMadamMim Sun 25-Apr-21 20:55:38

I think it's embarrassing. I'd be cringing at the idea of a 25 year old actually being attracted to a woman of your age.

I'd also feel the same if a 46 year old man tried it on with my 25 year old DD (I have a DD of 25, btw).

It's creepy.

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