i have been married to my husband for 20 years. we have not been intimate for the last ten. he is not interested, and after he stoping taking care of his hygiene neither was i.
we have moved to my country a year ago. he has struggled to find work and i am the breadwinner. he earns a decent salary now but will only contribute money for groceries. this means 3/4 of his monthly salary goes on ??????
he does minimal stuff around the house, and only when asked.
pros: he is not a terrible person, does not abuse me and the children love him and would be devastated. they are 11 and 13.
he knows i am unhappy and i have talked about my feelings but he says everything is fine and we are great together. this makes me feel like i am crazy.
if i had no children i would go, in a heartbeat but i keep thinking it is a small sacrifice for me to stay and let them continue to have him in their lives.
besides if i kicked him out i am sure if only end up financing his life, and doing everything here at home, only completely alone.
every day i think i can’t bear this any longer and then i think so many others have it worse, and i should just get on with it.
thank you for reading, any advice is helpful and very much appreciated.
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should i stay or go 20 year marriage
MadgeMidgerson · 28/02/2021 01:07
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