Just after some advice about how to deal with these feelings. Have been with husband for half of my life and since having DS 15 months ago, have come to realise that he's emotionally abusive and has been for probably the entirety of our relationship and am therefore getting my ducks in a row and planning to leave (I posted a thread about this recently).
I am really struggling with realising that I've missed out on the best days of my life and sacrificed them to maintain a relationship with him. I have been with him since I was 16 and am almost 32. I didn't go to university because he said he would not stay with me if I did. I cut nights out with friends short and eventually stopped going on them because he would always bombard me with messages and didn't like me going out, would wait up to check what time I got home etc. He never wanted to travel or go to live music etc, I turned down going to Japan with my best friend. I am still renting at my age because he is and has always been so terrible with finances I would always end up paying for everything and bailing him out, and now I worry I will never get back on the career ladder and get a mortgage. I know it sounds superficial but my looks are fading and I realise I have given him the best part of me. I have no confidence left at all, no savings and am a shell of my former self. Sorry for the self pity. I wish I had not had my head in the sand all these years.
How do you reclaim your life and overcome the regret of investing so much in someone?
Thank you.
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Regret staying for so long
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Songbird13 · 23/02/2021 11:16
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