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Men don't want to be loved, they want to be liked. Would you agree with this statement?

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Jenny215 Mon 22-Feb-21 17:22:57

Well my question says it all really. It's made me rethink things, is it really true?

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LApprentiSorcier Mon 22-Feb-21 17:23:50

Sorry, I think it's nonsense.

PlanDeRaccordement Mon 22-Feb-21 17:24:44

My DH says this is nonsense.

BaggoMcoys Mon 22-Feb-21 17:25:32

I was once told a similar-ish saying:

Men want to be respected, women want to be loved.

I said it was bollocks and that both men and women generally want to be loved and respected, and that I don't think it's really love if there is no respect. And I still agree with myself.

Branleuse Mon 22-Feb-21 17:27:19

im sure most people want both

AnneLovesGilbert Mon 22-Feb-21 17:29:09

Can’t they have both? I’ve never loved a man I didn’t like.

Where did you hear this and what do you think it means?

Jenny215 Mon 22-Feb-21 17:33:12

Apparently it means men care more about feeling liked by their woman than loved.
I suppose it could mean fancying them, wanting them sexually, appreciating them. They don't care for romantic gestures etc.

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AnneLovesGilbert Mon 22-Feb-21 17:34:15

Men are nearly half the population. It’s always foolish to talk about them like they’re all identical.

Shinyletsbebadguys Mon 22-Feb-21 17:39:47

Not for my DF , he knows that there are things that I don't like (but understand and accept ) about him as there are many about me he doesn't like. We both accept that we are in a lifelong relationship with a flawed human being (because we all are) but we love each other despite those occasional dislikes.

JustAnotherOldMan Mon 22-Feb-21 18:21:01

No it’s bollocks, of course men want to be loved and wanted and needed, we are all people after all.
It’s Just that most men don’t really go in for a Jane Austin idea of romantic love

Bookriddle Mon 22-Feb-21 19:18:33

As a bloke, I personally feel this is bollocks! I want to be lived(thankfully am)

Eckhart Mon 22-Feb-21 19:20:49

Horrible generalisation. How would you like to be lumped in with 'what women like'?

user1481840227 Mon 22-Feb-21 20:47:08


Apparently it means men care more about feeling liked by their woman than loved.
I suppose it could mean fancying them, wanting them sexually, appreciating them. They don't care for romantic gestures etc.

It doesn't really make any sense.

Fancying them and wanting them sexually would be more likely to make someone feel loved within a relationship, not liked.

Or some men want to be lusted after but wouldn't care too much if they were liked or loved so it could be a standalone category.

Also being appreciated would be more likely to make you feel loved than liked.

So I don't really understand what they mean by liked...but most men are annoying so I don't think they care too much about being liked lol

Susie477 Mon 22-Feb-21 20:49:31

Any generalisation about 50% of the population of the planet is silly.

fantasmasgoria1 Mon 22-Feb-21 20:51:13

My Fiance says he prefers to be loved. After years of marriage and other relationships where he did not feel loved that's what he really wanted. He gets love in spades because he's awesome!

Ritascornershop Mon 22-Feb-21 20:52:57

Good god no. Of course they want to be loved. A difference I do note is how they interpret gestures of love (as much as we can generalize about “all men”). I think for more men than women they interpret a dip in the amount of sex as meaning love has dipped too.

Jackie2022 Mon 22-Feb-21 20:56:46

Not really. Men do tend to be comfortable with casual no strings dating, but as can women.

Also a man can get jealous if a new potential partner likes another man more than they like him, suggesting being merely liked isn’t enough for him and he wants more. There’s definitely men that want more from a relationship than sex or “being liked”

Jackie2022 Mon 22-Feb-21 20:59:39

Another example, there’s plenty of famous, successful or wealthy men that don’t want to date a woman that wants him for his popularity/money/to benefit from his success etc. They prefer a woman that loves him for him rather than likes what he can offer them.

Likewise there’s many men that wouldn’t care and think a vagina is a vagina 🤷🏼‍♀️ You can’t really generalise

OchreBlue Mon 22-Feb-21 21:02:18

What has it made you re-think?

Marineboy67 Mon 22-Feb-21 21:04:24

As a man that's just rubbish. Of course we want to feel loved. Doesn't everyone? Really can't understand the source or foundation behind a statement like that, I've certainly never heard it said before.

Shoxfordian Mon 22-Feb-21 21:14:25

It doesn’t really make any sense op

helpmeoutMN Mon 22-Feb-21 21:32:43

My husband definitely wants both

NoMackerelInSwindon Mon 22-Feb-21 23:33:11

Men generally want the same things as women, apart from toilet seat lids.

NotMyPremium Mon 22-Feb-21 23:54:33

DP wants me to love him, like him and respect him. He also loves the little gestures I make that show him I love him.

His ex did none of thise things. She didn't respect him, she didn't love him and I doubt she really liked him that much. It's crippled his MH at times to have been treated like that by his long term partner.

So no, it's total rubbish. Men aren't a different species. They want many of the same things that women want.

oil0W0lio Mon 22-Feb-21 23:58:58

But but.... I thought men were from alpha centauri and women were from Aquarius 🤷🏼‍♀️

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