Anyone asked a man out and had success?

Well, I guess you have nothing to lose. Did you post about this recently?

Oh god. This isn’t the guy your massively crushing on is it? I though the advice was to leave well alone 🥴

I’ve asked out 5 men. Two from years ago, and three in the last few months via online dating. I would always say go for it. If you don’t ask you don’t get.

I personally am the kind of person to ruminate endlessly and to regret things so I like the ‘putting it to bed’ aspect. If I didn’t ask and they didn’t ask it would have the potential to turn into my one lost love, my soulmate, so I NEED to do something if they don’t.

The first two were successful, numbers 3 and 4 weren’t as they weren’t in a position to be online dating in the first place, and I’m waiting for lockdown to end to go for a walk with number five.

I asked my first husband out and it worked but he was a absolute bastard so I suppose it depends how you define success

Serious though, he's either going to say yes or no. What have you got to lose in the scheme of things

Someone I knew fancied the guy who was doing some building work for her parents, she asked him out, they are married now!

Good luck OP, I hope it works out for you.

Yes. I've asked out most of the men I've been involved with. It's scary, but good to know where you stand. I've also been turned down, but it's been ok

My ‘proper’, girlfriend asked me out, ( I had previously asked her out a few times and been turned down),

If you’re going to do the asking be prepared to be turned down a few times, just because you like someone, doesn’t always mean they like you ..

I wouldn't. Do you really think he wouldn't have asked you out if he wanted to?

Loads of times over the years. Getting them to go on a date is easy I find. But getting them to commit, not so much. I do feel I've had more success with men who have asked me out. But I cant be arsed dithering so if I'm interested and by say...the end of chat 2 on online dating, if he has not asked me then I'll absolutely ask him if I'm interested.

I'd rather not risk losing a reliable mechanic, but that's just me.

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It’s not really the done thing to ask out customers or people who work on customer sites (I’ve worked on lots of customer sites)

Do it, but don't use his work email. It's not appropriate and, for all you know, he might not be the only one who has access to it.

11 yrs doesn’t matter in the slightest unless he thinks it matters. I wouldn’t email him on his works email system though. Better to just go ask him out.

On the other hand you could send him a friend request on FB and see what happens?

What are you hoping for? If it’s just casual fun then go for it you have nothing to lose.

However, if you want long term I think that the age gap might an issue. I know a lot of people on here will say that age is just a number... but I don’t agree. You are at two different stages in your life, he may want children. Just factor that into your decision

Do you take him doughnuts?

Agree with autumn, if it is just a fling/fun then go for it. If you are looking for something real I wouldn't bother, totally different life stages
Also when asking him out I wouldn't say you think he is gorgeous, too much. Just keep it casual..
Bets of luck and I'll keep my fingers and toes crossed for you :-)

Yes. I knew him but we weren't super close friends.
Reader, I married him. He's made me about four cups of coffee so far today. By a country mile, one of my best decisions!

I say go for it. It would be great to be asked out.

I asked out both my husbands and a couple of boyfriends before I first got married. Never had a 'no'!