I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a year now but I’m getting concerned for where our relationship is heading. My boyfriend divorced his wife about 9 years ago moved out and found his on place. But just before I started to date him he moved back into the ex wife house and she moved out due to not being able to financially able to run the home and placing herself in debt. I have been told my boyfriend will stay in the property for 3/5 years in order for her to pay off her debt and save money. But my concern is that she still texts quite a few times a week and she is still able to come and go to the property as and when she feels as there child who is 22 still lives there and she has to visit him as he gets upset when she doesn’t. He has no respect for my boyfriend and treats the house like a pigsty. The child in question does absolutely nothing all day and night apart from sit and play games and stream on his computer and gets treated like royalty for his laziness. I saw a similar post on here about a 21 year old man being treated like a prince and I can relate so much to this post as this is my situation right now. I’m even slowly losing respect for my partner for treating his adult son like a complete baby. But my partner and his ex wife are incredibly close and I’m starting to wonder if the wool is being pulled over my eyes . I have met the ex wife and she seems pleasant enough but something still doesn’t sit right with me. People say trust your instincts but am I trusting them or just looking for things that aren’t there . Please some good advice will be much appreciated.
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