I’ve had a weird situationship for the past 4 years with a man. We go through phases of being very close to not talking at all for months. I don’t want to be in a relationship with anyone, I can’t be bothered with it. But I do love this man.
A year ago, after 6 months of no contact, we became close again. This time I didn’t want to complicate things so there was no sex or anything. We were extremely close. I grew to love him as a very reliable friend. But we started sleeping together again in October. I was at first happy because my feelings didn’t change, I still didn’t want a relationship and I was happy that I was having amazing sex and had my best friend. But he’s changed again. It’s as if he starts to lose respect for me as soon as we start a sexual relationship. I’ve been there for him a lot over the last year, anything he’s needed I’ve been there.
I’ve been having a bit of a difficult time recently, I’m ok really but I needed him as a friend. And all of a sudden he’s too busy or I’ll need to wait. I did tell him that I feel he’s taken me for granted and that I wouldn’t be as available anymore. I just feel so hurt and let down. I keep crying etc. I think I’ve finally realised that he doesn’t care about me as much as I care about him and that I’m just a useful person to know. The friendship I thought we had was lovely and now I’m going to lose that but I can’t let someone take advantage of me.
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Feeling very hurt, just offloading really
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Lbnc2021 · 16/02/2021 19:23
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