My dm died recently after a long illness and a slow, painful decline which has been going on for years. She didn't want to live anymore and spoke endlessly about this. I feel sad, but know that she is now at rest.
The problem is that my dad (who I am more like in personality) would like us to write something nice about my mum for the eulogy. She could be thoughtful and kind, she organised lots of fun activities, gave us a love of travel, history and art.
The problem is that we didn't really connect. She was full of advice that I ignored. She never wanted to do things together. I would spend time alone with my dad, but never with her. I recognise that I could be a difficult pain in the arse child too.
I'm not sure if the last few years of her being ill and miserable have coloured things for me. It felt like she gave up. My younger son has no real memory of her ever even speaking to him.
I don't know if this makes any sense. I'm not sure what to say.
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Struggling with dm dying
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JADS · 16/02/2021 13:43
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