I feel awful. I have a habit of getting black out drunk to the point I can’t seem to control my behaviour or remember much the next morning. Me and my friend went out with 3 boys and were in their car, I got so drunk and ended up having sex with one of them in their car whilst everyone else was there too. I know. It’s disgusting and so embarrassing. I can’t even remember getting home, I can’t remember having sex, I have flashbacks but they are very short and I’m trying to block them out as I am humiliated. It was consensual so I’m not way suggesting rape or anything as I know I’m a mess when I’m drunk and get very horny which is weird and quite scary. This is not the first time something like this is happened. I can’t help but feel a little taken advantage of though. I haven’t even mentioned the worst part and that is that I woke up Saturday morning and got sent a video from one of my boy mates, the sex was being recorded and there was a video of me giving oral and me having sex in the car. A boy who was in the car that I didn’t have sex with recorded two short videos like 6 seconds long each maybe but I felt disgusting and violated. I didn’t consent and I didn’t know. The flash was on but I promise I didn’t know it was being recorded. I don’t know how many people have it. My ex found out and blocked me on everything and called me a dirty whore which is fair enough I guess but that isn’t what I want to be like. I don’t know how many people have seen it and I can’t report it as nothing will be solved and it’d give the situation more attention and god knows who could still have the video. I know at least 5/6 people have it and things like that get sent on and on. One of the people that has it isn’t very fond of me either. I just feel like a total mess and my actions when I drink get so out of hand. I knew other people were in the car but I must of not cared. Me and my ex have broken up for over a year but we’ve been a contact ever since then still and been sleeping together. I feel awful and bad for him that he had to see that. He doesn’t love me anymore but we used to talk a lot and I feel so bad for him. He’s been ignoring all my messages and blocked me like I said. Fuck I’m rambling I just don’t think there’s any coming back from this. The videos aren’t graphic at all and you can’t see my face but people know it’s me. No one I know has said anything to me so I don’t think it’s got around that many people thank god. I need to change and be a better person and not so much of a slag.
There’s nothing I can do now I guess but I want to change what people think of me but it’s not possible. I’ve got a name for myself previous to this I think, I don’t know. I’ve slept with 16 people in just over a year and I never used to be like this before my ex. When I was with him it was just 3 people (including him) and now I’m a complete slut. I think it’s how I’ve been coping but that’s not an excuse. I want to change peoples perception. Especially my exes, I never want to be with him again but I want him to be proud of me and think I’m a good person again. He called me vile and said stay out of my life. Everyone’s seen your true colours... any advice would be accepted please don’t be too hard on me.
I’m 21 btw
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jxllison · 16/02/2021 03:54
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