Am I being irrational to feel under- appreciated by my husband? The past year I have been feeling this way. We have had a lot going on, saving for a house, buying a house etc and in all that chaos we forgot our wedding anniversary. My husband remembered a few weeks afterwards but I never got anything but I was okay with it at that time because I knew we had so much going on. My wedding anniversary falls a few weeks after Mother’s Day and his sisters birthday which he didn’t forget and made sure to gift them. Fast forward a few months down the line when it was my birthday he got me airpods as a gift knowing fully well I’m not that into that stuff. He is into his tech and I got him airpods as one of his birthday gifts the year before, as he really wanted one for himself and he’s into that stuff, I’m not. I’m a very ‘girly- girl’ and he knows this. When it was his mothers birthday a few week later he got her £600 designer watch. I don’t want to seem spoilt but he has never gotten me anything that expensive and always makes it out to me that money should be carefully spent. He also got his sister a beautiful designer necklace for her birthday much more expensive than the boring AirPods I got. Now it’s Valentine’s Day, the one day that I’m thinking I can feel a little special and yes he got me flowers and chocolates which made my day. Only then in the next hour to say he’s visiting his sister and mum for Valentine’s Day to gift them flowers for Valentine’s Day. I know he’s being a good son and brother, but I can’t help but feel I’m secondary in his life and undeserving of the best by his standards. I mean if I was treated equally as special as his sister and mother, I guess that would be me being greedy for his attention and love but. I am actually feeling like they get more love from him than I do. He acknowledged that his mums love language is by gifts, and I even told him I am the same, so why does he not spend time and thought on the gifts he gives to me? Just feeling a little unloved and under appreciated in comparison to the love he shows to his mother and sister that’s all.
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Am I being irrational and overthinking? Husband shows love to his mother and sister more than he does to me
Homebuddy · 14/02/2021 14:32
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