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Heads all over(10 Posts)
Sorry if this is going be long post jsut need to get it in the open.
Age 27 no kids marriage together 8 years, still renting just coasted along I'm still not to sure on children, I wanted be married but he never that interested I loved him wanted stay anyway. Problem is about a year ago I met a man at work and we instantly clicked and felt like an electric current running through me, he then messaged me on Facebook and we began chatting, he then wanted meet up with me but I declined as I still loved boyfriend and it hurt me to think about ending it. Me and partner have had lot ups and downs, at this time we was going through bad patch of arguing, mainly his differing sex drive to mine and lack of dates/ help around the house.
I decided to quit my job and get away from the other man concentrate on me and bf and even now I jsut still can't seem to get him out my head, I would often dream about him and even now it still happens I just don't know I have never felt like this with anyone. I still love partner but part me thinks is it a case of grass is greener, and is this as good it will ever get and I kind of feel let down? This isn't the life pictured for myself but when I think of leaving him it hurts me so much I still like him want sex/ laugh together I just can't seem get this other man out the picture! I know that nobody has the answer and it's just so difficult, I don't want to loose him but part me thinks I could look back when I'm 40 and regret staying?? X anyone please any advice! Has anyone been in similar situation?! Lockdown is also not helping, as I hate my job at the moment doing 10 hour days, he works nights and kind of feel wanted more for myself ? Feel like going mad inside.... 😩😓 Thank you anyone that's got this far! Xx
You’ve quit your job to stay at home to look after the home of a man who doesn’t want to marry you and who doesn’t pull his weight when your relationship is not going well? Did I understand that right?
Yes have changed jobs and other man still single
You need to remember what it was like when you met your current partner. Probably all new and exciting too.
But, maybe take some time to think about what you want from life and whether you are going to get that from your current partner. You say you want to be married, but he doesn't. And you're not bothered about having kids? Does he want children? Would the other man want these things in his future?
The other man is a red herring. Decide what you want to do about your relationship first, if you want to get married talk to your partner about it, work out what you want from life.
If you can’t get other man out your head can you not just meet up with him for a walk/coffee and see how you feel.
You are 27, you don’t sound that happy in your relationship, you have no ties- marriage/kids/house to him therefore what do you have to lose. Imagine being with current bf for another 8 years and nothing has changed you will be 35.
Don’t look back and regret choices in life.
27 is a very good age to start over.
Your P doesn't want to marry you, doesn't do his share around the house, doesn't make an effort to do dates.
At 27 there is so so so much more and better out there!
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