I suspect that my OH had a short affair 10 years ago. It's one of those things where my gut feeling told me something was going on. After a few years of him lying to me he confessed that he had been with a woman at a time when he said he had been with a male friend but still absolutely swears blind that nothing physical happened and that he only met her once. My instinct and my sense all tell me that more went on than he has admitted to, but he is stubborn and I know he is committed to our relationship now and is unlikely ever to confess. I go on with life quite happily but then every so often something triggers the thought that he has been unfaithful and I obsess over it, sometimes I challenge him, but he still denies everything. Who knows? Maybe it is as he says and he made only a very small mistake of spending time talking to a woman all night when he should have been at home. As he says, it is now, all a long time in the past. But I hate the niggling doubt which casts a shadow over our relationship! Does anyone have any experience or guidance on how to move on, accept that he may have been unfaithful and I'll never know, but not keep obsessing over it? - Am I being unreasonable in not letting it go?
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