I'm a little new to online dating and I keep getting asked similar questions from different guys that I feel is a little awkward with only a few days of chatting to a stranger online so, I'm wondering if anyone else finds this normal as it seems to be the normal thing popping up.
For example, I had exchanged messages with one guy for about 2 days and we were talking about likes and dislikes such as movies, food which was going well. Then he changed the subject and wanted to know about previous first dates I've been on, what was the worst date and told me about a girl he took out and how it didn't work out - and also wanted to know how many dates I've had through lockdown (obviously none!) and other guys have asked similar stuff along with 'what kind of qualities do you look for in a relationship/guy' kind of thing. The guy then wanted to give me a call the next day (even though I went a little quiet after his dating questions) - I didn't want to chat on the phone to him as it was a little too soon especially since he was asking things I didn't want to answer. Maybe I'm slightly sensitive and new to online apps but I find this so awkward and for me instantly dampens the conversation. I prefer to talk about interests and hobbies etc not previous relationships - it's not something I would ask a guy so don't see why they need to ask me.
I'm quite private and haven't really got a long history of dating, I have an embarrassing short number of previous dates and not really any long-term serious relationships (as meeting guys in the real world seems so hard these days - which is the reason for trying out online).
I don't feel comfortable discussing my private life with a stranger who I've only just started talking to and don't know. If I met someone and it got serious then that would maybe be discussed if the questions were asked but am I the only one who feels this is irrelevant when only JUST chatting on a dating app to a random guy?
I'm starting to feel the whole dating app thing is not worth it if I have to go into stuff I want to keep private to start with. Any views on this would be really helpful :) and sorry for the long write up.
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Peachblossom28 · 22/01/2021 11:24
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