I've messaged before about my DH....
We have a 6 month old boy and he has been up a lot during the night.
Last night I was up with him and then when I woke up this morning DH was still asleep in bed. I asked him if he was going to work and he said he was tired (he's flexible at work).
At about 12.30 he had been in his PJs all morning but announced he needed to get showered and go out.
I asked where and he said (the site he is working) which is 1hr and 20 mins from
Us.
Anyway he left at 1.15 and got back at 4.30.
In the mean time I was on the phone to my friend and she said he had just passed her works which is totally the opposite end of town to where he would come off the motorway. (She was pulling out and he passed her)
When he got in I asked if he managed to get his work done and he said "yeah" then I asked how was the motorway and he said "same as always why would you ask"
I don't know what to think 😒
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Tilpop · 21/01/2021 18:32
I think you need to ask him otherwise it will fester in you. Good Luck 
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Tilpot, I am very concerned about you. This new issue is the tip of an iceberg.
You’ve previously written about your controlling and emotionally/financially abusive Husband. He belittles and degrades you, and is no longer interested in interacting with the baby.
You have cameras all around because of a break in, but he uses them to monitor your movements and watches you like a hawk from afar. He knows if you leave the house and demands to know where you are going.
Last fall he kept mentioning his plans to stay over one night for work and saying his mate would be there. When he returned early without staying over, he was foul with you. He said he didn’t care about you. You asked if someone had let him down and he later took issue with that question. Many posters thought he’d been disappointed by a woman. You also mentioned that he had been showing suspicious phone behavior.
It now appears that he has been lying about his whereabouts.
Tilpot, you and your little son are living in a toxic, abusive environment. You both deserve an emotionally safe home, but your H will never provide that. He is a narcissistic, mean-spirited tyrant who may be cheating.
Is it possible for you to take the baby and leave? I am aware that your mother is also an abusive person.
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