Hi everyone
Sorry if this is not the right place as it is not relationship based. Sounds silly but I am feeling really quite uncomfortable with how to approach things with lodger. Basically he moved in only a couple of weeks ago, and at first he seemed fine , some differences, but nothing huge.
I have slowly began to realise though that he does drink a lot, and he is also a heavy cannabis smoker. He smokes outside, but the smell comes from his room where he stores it. Now this is where I may be flamed... I am worried I sent the wrong message to him as I have once smoked with him (before I realised he did not just smoke occasionally) so now I feel awkward about saying to him that the smell does bother me.
He has been drinking occasionally in the day and always does of a night, and smokes pretty often throughout the day and night. He was waking me being up all night but I have ear plugs now so this is mostly fine, but some very late nights can be disturbing.
Essentially, he obviously needs to leave. He has always been calm with me, but I know he has had a physical fight with family recently while drunk. I wonder how to explain to him that it is not working. He has complex mental health and clearly is always under the influence of something. I do feel awful as he’s been making himself at hole buying things etc. but I really cannot do this. He has not shown any aggression to me so I was shocked he got into a fight, and I don’t envisage him being aggressive to me but I can’t be sure as I do not know him really. I would therefore like to avoid any personal reasons or get into his alcohol or deug issues, so how would people suggest I phrase it?
I will need to relist the room as I need the money. I could wait until he is gone if it will make it worse if he sees me relisting, but would prefer not to. I have to give him one months notice.
Thanks!
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Helpagirloutt · 19/01/2021 22:11
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