Hi all,
Feeling really down at the moment so please be kind
Bf of 3 years broke up with me 3 weeks ago, completely out of the blue. He said it was down to a number of reasons but mainly the fact that we had drifted apart over the last year or so. I had no idea he was feeling this way until he ended things, he'd never tried to talk to me about his feelings at all. I think it could be down to the fact that I have worked a lot over the last year and perhaps put my career ahead of our relationship. He wanted to start trying for a baby last year but I said no as I wasn't ready/felt I was to young (we are also still renting and I want to save up for a mortgage first if possible). We are in our mid 20's if it's relevant.
We've lived together for the last year and a half and naturally he has moved out, back to his mums since we are no longer together. I've tried to keep it together although the break up was definitely not mutual and I feel heartbroken inside. He has not really contacted me much over the last few weeks and has kept his distance. He rang me yesterday morning to let me know that he would be coming by some point next week to start packing his things up/move out properly. We didn't argue but I think it hit me that it's all real and I started to cry on the phone.
He's not messaged me once to ask if I'm okay or see how I'm coping and I think this has actually upset me more than the break up itself. It almost feels like he doesn't care about me at all now that we're no longer together. I understand he's trying to keep his distance, perhaps so that I don't get my hopes up thinking he'll change his mind but would it kill him to ask if I'm okay??
Do you automatically just stop caring about someone when you break up with them?
I would understand if the break up ended on bad terms/we'd been arguing etc but it's really not been like that. I think I've been quite understanding really.
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You don't automatically stop caring about someone just because you've broken up with them, do you?
cakeladyy · 17/01/2021 18:29
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