Not sure how to word this, it probably sounds a little weird.
I feel like I spend most of my time rushing around doing tasks and trying to pre-empt what other people might pick up on to try and find fault with me.
Examples:
My partner: I often do errands for my partner or he gets annoyed and says I'm lazy. I hoover and mop at night to avoid him telling me I don't do any cleaning. I do whatever he wants to keep the peace.
Work colleague: I have a jobshare type arrangement with a colleague. I am rushed off my feet lately, but any small task she can find fault with me on the days she is in and I'm not, she will send a passive aggressive email to the boss highlighting it. I have to make sure I've covered and done everything to avoid getting into trouble by her and it feels like squeezing 5 days work into 3.
Not really sure what I'm asking. Maybe this is a strange way of thinking and I need to change? Obviously it's having an effect on my mental health and is making me anxious.
I'm scared of my partner screaming at me or loosing my job, respectively.
Does anyone know what I mean? How can I move forward? Do I need to toughen up?
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My life revolves around doing things to avoid other people telling me off
again2020 · 15/01/2021 17:15
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