Want to split but very few friends

[Dailydingo]

I want to leave my 15 year marriage. I have 2 DC. I have 1 close friend, I need to widen this. How do I do it though

[Treacletoots]

Mums groups, exercise classes, cycling, craft. All of course a bit challenging with covid right now, but it won't last forever.

I was in your exact position, but decided a quiet life was better than one stuck with a horrible narcissistic husband. As it turned out, I had a blast, joined a Zumba class, got a dog, got a lodger who is now a life long friend. Joined a cycling group, really just did stuff that I wanted to do.

You can be alone, without being lonely. It's ok, and just requires a shift in mindset. It's also really healthy to enjoy your own company, it'll stop you needing a relationship to just entertain you, and hopefully if you do find a new relationship it will be because they make your life better, not because you're lonely :)

[GreyishDays]

How old are your children, roughly?

[WitsEnding]

Volunteer with one of the COVID groups, you’ll meet good people that way.
Once things go back to normal anything from WI to Meetup, and I second exercise groups - some of my best friends are here.

It was so much easier to meet people without XH - people would drop me to avoid him.

[Dailydingo]

DC are 12 & 14.
There is an old schoolfriend on fbook (25 years ago friend) I would like to reach out to but how on earth do i start that convo - ''Hi will you be my friend coz i dont have many' '

[DianaT1969]

Can you make friends through your work? That's how I meet most new people.

[WindblowingSW]

@Dailydingo

DC are 12 & 14.
There is an old schoolfriend on fbook (25 years ago friend) I would like to reach out to but how on earth do i start that convo - ''Hi will you be my friend coz i dont have many' '

No.

Hi "old school friend" I often think about our times at school. Would love to have a proper catch up but it's bloody hard in these Covid times. Would you like to meet for a walk or a Zoom cup of coffee or something?

Daily dingo

[Dailydingo]

@DianaT1969 - yes I have non work chats with one girl from work, I could push on that open door a bit more to develop that friendship to regular meet up. She lives in the next town so cannot just have a quick pop in for a coffee type of thing but she is def an option.

[movingonup20]

I've started volunteering, I chat to people at the gym (well it's closed but oh well) and I'm friendly with dp's friends partners, on has invited me to join her and her mates on a night out post Covid

[Supereager]

You say “Hi! I’ve often wondered how you are over the years. Once lockdown is over do you fancy getting together for a catch up coffee?” I did this exact same thing and she said yes

[blindinglyobviouslight]

Be aware that making friends is a long slow process. It can take years to build up solid friendships and there can be a lot of hopes of friendship that fade away to nothing. You just have to keep at it and not get too discouraged.