Hello, looking for some stories of hope if anyone can relate.
Been married for 12 years with 2 DSs aged 7 and 3.
DH was medically discharged from the forces 4 years ago and it’s been so tough since then. Being in the forces was all he wanted to do. He was and still is devastated he couldn’t stay in. In those 4 years we have also had extra stresses including homelessness (Private LL selling up), car crash (rear ended) and money problems. On top of all that for the past 2 years he has been suffering crippling migraines caused by inner ear nerve damage.
For the past year or so we have been having the same recurring upset/arguments. These usually come down to the fact that he feels dierectionless, he says he lost everything when he left the forces and doesn’t know how to get past it. Every argument has resulted in us coming up with ideas of things DH can do move forward, from looking for support from organisations to walking the dog more. He has not followed through with any of them. His mood affects the whole house and with no apparent desire to help himself in at a loss.
I suggested a break because we just keep going round in circles. He has gone to his mums with the dog and is close enough to see the kids whenever he wants which I’ll support.
I love him, I’m broken. But hes getting worse and nothing I say or do helps.
Has anybody had a break that didn’t result in a break-up? I’m terrified that’s inevitable.
And what can I do to get through the next few days? I need to hold it together for the kids, but it just hurts so so much.
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LouLouLoupee · 22/11/2020 08:07
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