I’ve been with my partner for 6 years, we are both 30 years old. We have a beautiful 16 month old daughter together, 2 dogs and a house. We aren’t engaged but I’ve asked about it and he said it won’t be long. Despite him being my best friend, we have always had a lot of issues right from the start. I ignored them because I was lonely. We don’t connect on a deep level and never have. He doesn’t care about the little things about me. I’ve forgotten what it’s like to be that close to someone. We don’t just talk about nothing, it’s just small talk. He works away in a fly in fly out job (we live in Australia) so he’s gone pretty often. I don’t mind at all though, I’ve come to enjoy my time with just me and my daughter. He’s a fantastic provider and is good to us in that department. On the other hand he is lazy at home, seems totally uninterested in doing much or in me, he’s moody and short tempered. He is selfish and admits it. He won’t want to do anything that doesn’t benefit him but says he is working on that. We have very little romance, if any. I used to try but I don’t bother anymore. He is glued to watching gaming streams on his phone, all day and in bed at night. Even if I am speaking he has it on in the background and sometimes only pretends to listen to me. I’ve given him so many opportunities to call it quits and have asked him if he is over us, and said that I will make it easy for him. But he doesn’t want it to be over and says he loves me so much. He flat out refuses to see a counsellor with me. I know everyone says I should leave him if I’m not happy but I’m not unhappy, I’m just blah...I’m not really happy sometimes though. I’ve been on the fence for the entire 6 years. I cannot imagine leaving him though and being without him. I just don’t know what to do anymore.
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