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Does you OH buy you flowers?

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EpochTime · 18/11/2020 11:50

Just to satisfy my curiosity, please. Does your OH buy you flowers? My OH seems to think he's a prince among men for buying me flowers occasionally, as apparently not many men do this! From my experience, I'm convinced he's wrong!

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jessstan1 · 18/11/2020 11:51

My husband did.

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nonflirtinghusband · 18/11/2020 11:51

Only on Valentine's Day. I would love it if he did it more often.

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Stereomum · 18/11/2020 11:52

Yes, once every couple of months

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irregularegular · 18/11/2020 11:52

He regularly picks flowers and greenery from the garden and puts them in a vase, which I think is much nicer! Once a week or so. They are not "for me" as such, but I prefer that.

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LajesticVantrashell · 18/11/2020 11:52

Very, very occasionally, and only when not expected. He’d never buy me them for valentines or our anniversary, but always remembers to get me some on the anniversary of my Dads death.

However, I buy myself a huge bunch every 2/3 weeks as I love fresh flowers.

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WisestIsShe · 18/11/2020 11:53

Yes, maybe once a month. Nothing extravagant though.

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EpochTime · 18/11/2020 11:54

@irregularegular

He regularly picks flowers and greenery from the garden and puts them in a vase, which I think is much nicer! Once a week or so. They are not "for me" as such, but I prefer that.

That's lovely!
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helloxhristmas · 18/11/2020 11:55

No but he buys me a bottle of wine, or something I want but then i think flowers are bit of a waste of money.

I'll but in season flowers daffs in spring etc but the price of decent bouquets is a bit nuts imo.

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MonkeyPuddle · 18/11/2020 11:55

Only when we’ve had a row. They’re his go to apology gift.
But I’m not over fussed on being bought flowers mind you.

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Wallabyone · 18/11/2020 11:56

Hardly ever! He will for our anniversary or Valentines, but not just because-I buy them for myself though!

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Oreservoir · 18/11/2020 11:57

My dh loves gardening and we have many beautiful flowers in summer which we both pick for the house.
He buys flowers for me sometimes. I like freesias the best and they are difficult to grow.

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ILiveInSalemsLot · 18/11/2020 11:58

He used to a long time ago but I told him to stop. He would only get them delivered and I got annoyed at him spending over £200 on them one year when we could’ve had a weekend away instead.
If he’d popped into a shop and spent £10 on a bunch, I would have been happy.

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marriednotdead · 18/11/2020 12:00

Once in a while and never on a special day, they’re just because. He does other romantic stuff though and hides chocolate bars in my pockets.
I buy flowers for him occasionally too Smile

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WindsorBlues · 18/11/2020 12:00

Husband and my dad both by me flowers every now and again.

My dad buy my mum flowers every week.

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AfterSchoolWorry · 18/11/2020 12:02

Valentines day.

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merlotormalbec · 18/11/2020 12:03

Sometimes he does. Sometimes I buy them. Tbh I don't really like getting them as I hate trimming them/putting them in a vase etc.

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Shoxfordian · 18/11/2020 12:03

Yeah my husband buys me flowers fairly often. Always for my birthday, valentines, anniversary etc.

He buys lilies when he goes shopping, admittedly on the joint account so I buy half but he thinks of it

Don't think your dp is doing anything that impressive op

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LolaSmiles · 18/11/2020 12:06

Mine doesn't, but shows he cares in other ways. Everyone has a different love language and shows their affection in different ways.

I dont think your DH buying you flowers makes him a prince though and would find his attitude a bit unattractive as it seems to come with the implication that you should be grateful for how wonderful he is.

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LemonNLime · 18/11/2020 12:08

No, not even valentine's day, anniversaries or birthdays

He's bought me flowers twice in 12 years.

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LindaEllen · 18/11/2020 12:19

Haha, he's only ever got me them once, for Valentine's last year. And I think that's only because his mum told him to (she runs a flower shop).

To be honest though, my ex bought me them regularly - yet he was a shit partner and my current DP is great in many ways. He buys me lots of things (not that that's the way to measure how good a relationship is!) he's just not a flower kind of guy.

I'm not sure I'm a flower kind of girl either, to be honest, so I guess that's okay!

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HotSince63 · 18/11/2020 12:21

Yes, I'd rather he didn't though, he'll spend £30 on a bouquet of flowers when I could get the exact same flowers from the local florist in separate bunches and arrange them myself for about £10. Grin

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sadonfriday · 18/11/2020 12:26

In three years.... twice. It makes me a bit sad because I find them very romantic, and I absolutely adore them. I often buy myself flowers, and not expensive at all. I’ve said I don’t care if they cost a fiver. But he’s infinitely kind in so many other ways, I have just accepted he doesn’t really ‘get’ flowers

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PandemicPalava · 18/11/2020 12:28

Nope

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PandemicPalava · 18/11/2020 12:29

Buys me wine and cheese though

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1990shopefulftm · 18/11/2020 12:30

He has a couple of times but we both suffer from hayfever quite badly so I much more appreciate other gestures :)

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