So i've ben with my girlfriend for over 10 years, in the last few years I would say she has put on a quite a bit of weight (Around 3 stone / 42lbs) and I'm no longer physically attracted to her.
I feel horrible even writing this and I wish I could just change what i'm attracted to but I can't. We haven't had sex for over a year and really don't know what to do.
Everything else in the relationship is amazing, I love her with all my heart and still after all these years we make each other laugh every single day.
Ive offered to join a gym with her, do yoga, take up physically demanding hobbies together. I keep myself in "good" shape and have been only too willing to work with her to help her out but whenever a bring the subject up she just gives me excuses. We don't have kids and we currently both work at home. Her job is quite demanding (This being her main excuse for not wanting to exercise, that and the fact she says she genuinely doesn't like exercise.
Now obviously she shouldn't have to change her shape just to suit what I find attractive but I feel like I shouldn't feel guilty/bad for not wanting to have sex with someone I no longer feel attracted to in that way.
Am I being a chauvinistic idiot? I really don't see her changing and as she gets older only getting bigger. Am i now resigned to a sexless relationship.
I really do love her but i just don't know how this is going to pan out.
Please give me your advice.
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Mark123456 · 16/11/2020 16:54
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