We’ve been married 8 years and together 12 years but known each other 18 years.
I’m considering whether our marriage is worth sticking out. We have 2 DP aged 7y & 5y. My DH had a very traumatic experience 5 years ago and he’s never been the same since. I’ve tried everything to help him but I seem to be the one suffering. There is no emotional or physical connection anymore. He’s not proud of my achievements. Instead I feel tolerated. If I don’t do something to be perceived to be how he would do it then it’s wrong. We don’t argue that often but when we do he is extremely hurtful then pretends like nothing has happened the next day, leaving me feel an emotional wreck. He also drinks heavily (I think as a coping mechanism) but refuses to address it.
He earns all the money so leaving would be hard. The kids adore him and he would blame me so that could be damaging on my relationship with the children.
What do I do? We tried marriage counselling a few years ago. He won’t get counselling for dealing with the trauma he faced so I feel like my options to improve the situation are limited.
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Thisorthatwhoknows · 16/11/2020 09:40
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