My dad left my mum and me when I was a toddler. He ran off with the next door neighbour. She left a son, my dad left me. All that was 38 years ago.
There was a divorce and as was the case in those days official visiting times etc as set by the court. These stopped when I was 13.
I learnt when I was older than my father had never paid any maintenance.
I had sporadic contact with him throughout my teens and 20s.
I invited him to my wedding and he attended with his new family as an 'ordinary' guest.
When my DSs were born I sent announcement cards to him.
He has always been internested in my boys and sent presents at Christmas and birthdays for the first couple of years. I was happy to accept the gifts for my children as he never gave anything to me as a child.
I had a nervous breakdown at the beginning of the summer. Somehow he found out (I think through my dm who seems to be in contact with him...) and he repeatedly rang the hospital to find out what was wrong. Eventually I let him visit me. It was v weird and I was glad when it was over.
Now he is ringing me again. And I dont want to speak to him. I had a crap childhood becauase of him and right now I dont want to play happy families.
How do I handle this though? Someone offer some advice please? Thanks
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My dad just rang and I didnt answer the phone
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PhoenixSoaring · 17/10/2007 19:07
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